The Community Has Influence.



When I grew up we lived in a community of family and neighbors. Everyone took part in the teaching, training and raising of the children. A community is not a place, a building or a zip code, it is however, a group of people who share common values, interests and concerns. Their beliefs and attitudes shape their behavior.

A community can be an extended family, an ethnic group, or a group of people who share a common experience or history. If everyone acts in the best interest of his neighbors, then a neighborhood is generally a community.
The Tribal cultures embody the best example of community.  Generally, they have a chief or Head Elder, usually one of the older men in the group. There is typically a council of elders, these are other men and women in the group who have proven themselves to be mature, wise and resourceful. They have gained the respect of the community through their maturity wisdom and resourcefulness. And of course, there is the counsel of women, they are responsible for the care and nurturing of the entire village. They teach customs, crafts, and social norms.
Even the children and teenagers support the community They have chores that keep the community clean and orderly. Some may prepare meals or care for the young as their contribution. Others may collect water, clean the yard, tend the garden or take care of small livestock as their contribution.
Here in the United States, we have homes,extended families, and neighborhoods, rather than villages. However, the structure is similar. Everyone in the community has a responsibility for taking care of the family, the home and the neighborhood. Thus the adage, “ It takes a Village to raise a child.” It is a community effort.

In the rural village communities, everyone in the community must follow the rules and do their part. If the sheep watcher does not protect the sheep, there will be no meat, no wool for clothes. If the home person does not take care of the garden, and the chickens, there will be no food. If the children don’t do their part, the entire community could fall into chaos.

Every member of a community should display good character and the values that are important to that community. Character is the type of person that you are, whether you are lazy, or hard working, honest or dishonest. And values are all of the parts that make up character, the things that are right and acceptable, because you have learned those values from the community as a whole.
The community encourages dedication to family, respect to all, education, personal growth, and development. It encourages each of us to be our best and to do our best no matter what.

The community culture is one of respect, decency and kindness. It embraces shared knowledge and wisdom. The community understands and honors heritage. It encourages community effort and community economics. For your sake and ours,be a part of the community.

This blog uses articles, poems, short stories and quotes.  Each post is a lesson. 

Knowledge is everywhere. Learn all that you can. Use what you learn.

Become a part of your community. Encourage the young people to do the same.

Community is vital.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good.


Welcome to Kindergarten

Welcome to Kindergarten Clipart


This excerpt is full of so much wisdom. Please use the thoughts in this piece to influence a kinder gentler community.

All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten from the book by Robert Fulghum.

ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten.

Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate-school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.

Share everything                                                                                                                                          Play fair
Don’t hit people
Put things back where you found them
Clean up your own mess
Don’t take things that aren’t yours
Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody
Wash your hands before you eat

Live a balanced life – learn some and think some
and draw and paint and sing and dance and play
and work every day some
Take a nap every afternoon

When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic,
hold hands, and stick together

Be aware of wonder
Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup:
The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody
really knows how or why, but we are all like that

Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even
the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die
So do we

And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books
and the first word you learned – the biggest
word of all – LOOK

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere
The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation
Ecology and politics and equality and sane living
Take any of those items and extrapolate it into
sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your
family life or your work or your government or
your world and it holds true and clear and firm

Think what a better world it would be if
all – the whole world – had cookies and milk about
three o’clock every afternoon and then lay down with
our blankets for a nap

Or if all governments
had a basic policy to always put items back where
they found them and to clean up their own mess
And it is still true, no matter how old you
are – when you go out into the world, it is best
to hold hands and stick together

Remind the young people in your life to be kind and considerate. Encourage them to use the lessons that they learned early in life.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good

You Have Influence

Auntie Starshine’s Influence Project


What distinguishes man from the animals is, the influence that the society he lives in has upon him. Anonymous

Influence is a subtle force yet a strong motivator. It is the impact that we have upon each others thoughts and actions. We influence people through our words and individual actions.

By using the power of influence through celebrity spokespersons marketers convince the public to purchase certain products. Understanding the power of influence, how can we gain the attention of our youth and influence their future success?

The behaviors that used to be youthful explorations of self expression have now become cultural norms, there are mature adults who still dress and behave like teenagers.

I want to have a positive influence upon the lives Black youth in America. If you are a parent or someone who has a mentoring heart, join me and connect with a few youth from your neighborhood. Meet with them once a week to inform and encourage them.

Our youth are denigrated in movies, music and the nightly news. My goal is to improve the opinions that others have about the Black community as well as improve the statistics of our youth, namely: self respect and disrespect, vulgarity, poor grooming and dress, lack of direction, the drop out rate, job skills and employment, youth violence, drug use, pregnancy and sexual activity

The blog will feature relevant topics which, can be supplemented by discussion, media material, activities, appearances by local figures and organizations as well as exposure to positive examples through media, and cultural activities. This blog emphasizes personal responsibility and self respect. We all have influence, let us influence a better community.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good

Fun Times With Dad

my dad

I just finished a term paper, for a class that I am taking.

The topic was, How a fathers care and attention impacts a child’s life. It was based on a research article about a Fathers’ Warm Care giving.

It stated all of the obvious data, and a few new things to consider. A child fares better when there are two parents in the home. A child in a single parent situation is more likely to face poverty and the troubles associated with poverty.

A child who does not have a father in the home is more likely to become a teenage parent and more likely to indulge in drugs, alcohol, and cigarette smoking. A child without a father in the home is more likely to engage in delinquent behavior. You get it.

That is not to say that, because, a child is in a single parent home, the world is going to come crashing down on him or her. There are many fatherless families with children who turn out to be just fine, and in some cases spectacular.

This is the result of powerful parenting on the part of the mother or single father.

Sometimes there is support from friends family and the larger community.

Every now and then things turn out great because they were wonderful children anyway.

Warm parenting is described as nurturing, responsive, positive, interactions by the father.

You know, the kind of stuff you see on TV. The report studied how a father’s warm interactions with his child, between the ages of birth and age 3 affected the child in later life.

The children who had the warm interactions, whether the father was in the home or not, did better on every measure. The did better in preschool, 2 grade, 5th grade and on into adolescence and early adulthood.

This got me to thinking about how it was growing up in my nearly perfect two parent home with a stay at home mom and a kind dad who made good money and did not run the streets.

It was great. We had simple fun, if my dad mowed the lawn, I was walking in his footsteps. If my dad fixed the TV, I was hanging over his shoulder and requesting that he take out all of the scarey stuff.

When my dad put up a picket fence, I was right there, of course, the picket that I cut was totally backwards. It was so backwards that you couldn’t flip it over. So my dad used that as the interest piece on the gate.

Friday was ice cream day, it didn’t matter how many kids were on the sidewalk, we all piled in and rode to the local diary queen or we made these fantastic grape soda ice cream floats in the kitchen.

Our fun came from long rides exploring the country side. The challenge was to see how many fox you could spot. We would drive over to Drayton Plains and Watch the parachute jumpers. And we would spend long days at the state park.

It was all so simple, but so much fun. Dads, whether you are in the home or not, make it a point to spend warm, quality, simple time with your children. You can’t underestimate the impact of that.

My dad is still alive today, I am 55 he is 84.

Thanks Dad for a Wonderful Life.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village,

The Village Mother

Stranger Danger




When was the last time you had a Stranger Danger conversation with the young people in your life?

Here is a reminder.


CTV Toronto Marlene Leung, Published Wednesday, March 20, 2013 10:13PM EDT

A 10-year-old girl thwarted an abduction attempt after asking a stranger for a code word that he did not know.

Durham police say a man approached the girl outside Apple croft Public School in Ajax, east of Toronto, on Monday around 3:30 pm.

The man attempted to lure the girl into his vehicle, which was parked in the school parking lot, police said. A female was in the vehicle at the time.

The man told the girl her parents had sent him to pick her up.

Det.. Dave Mason told CTV Toronto that the girl and her parents shared a secret code word that would be used if someone approached her telling her they were there to pick her up.

If the person was truly sent by her parents, he or she would know the code word.

“She asked this person what the code word was and obviously they got it wrong,” Mason said. “She told them ‘You got the code word wrong’ and that person left.”

As the two suspects left in the car, the girl even managed to memorize a few of the license plate numbers and what the suspects and the car looked like. When she returned home she told her parents, who notified police.

Mason said the case serves as a reminder to parents of the importance of talking with their children about personal safety.

“I think it’s important to have some sort of safety plan in place and to have that discussion with your kids,” he said.

Here are some more tips to keep your family safe.

tell children that if a stranger tries to talk to them, they should simply run away to find the nearest adult.

Children should also be taught that if they feel they’re being watched to find an adult and tell them.

Ensure that children always have someone around them they trust.

“Children really shouldn’t be alone. If they are going to and from school, they should be accompanied with other children,” he says.

If they are latchkey kids, they should have a rule that when they get home, they must phone one of their parents at work to check in,

Older kids who have cellphones should be checking in with their parents when they get home as well.

Teach your child to shout, “You’re not my mother!” or “You’re not my father!” if someone tries to take them away

Teach your child to say “No!” firmly. Practice shouting it with them

Teach them to go to a sales clerk if they’re separated from you in a store

Teach them to never invite strangers into the house or answer the door when alone

As soon as they’re old enough, teach them their address, phone number and parents’ names

As soon as they are old enough, teach them how to dial 911




Peggy is the first in a series of 3 books.  N K Beckley is a friend of mine.  We travel  the same craft show circuit.  Ms. Beckley is quite witty and assures me that your young person will enjoy this story.   Check out this title and other N K Beckley titles at Alibris .com under the author name N K Beckley.  Below is the official synopsis for the book.


Peggy is the story of a very bright Fourth Grader who lives in Suburban Philadelphia. She is always getting into trouble with her teachers and classmates as she likes to daydream. Her teachers and friends do not know what to do with her because when she is asked for an answer to questions she always gets it right. You as the reader are asked to solve her problem.

Stay tuned to see what happens to her in Book Two, The Three-Some.


It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take Care Of Your Village

The Village Mother

The Black Child’s Pledge


Recently, there has been some criticism about Black People teaching The Black Pledge to their children.They” feel that it is polarizing and that it adds no value to a young persons life.

I use the Black Pledge with my youth group. The Pledge was developed in 1968,  by Shirley Williams for the Black Panthers.

Despite their public image, the Black Panthers embraced all of the values that America holds dear.

I am not a member, nor have I ever been.  But when I was thinking about a statement for my youth, this came to mind.

I remembered the existence of this pledge from hearing it back in the 70’s, so I looked it up. That is how I became aware of the current controversy.

The purpose of a pledge is to state the values, principles and mission of an organization.  It assures that each and every member of the organization, knows what is expected.  When a person makes a pledge it, is a statement of agreement with the pledge and loyalty to the person or organization..

The Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts have a pledge, I assume that most Fraternities do to.  This is the statement regarding the Girl Scout Promise and Law (Pledge).

The Girl Scout Promise and Law are shared by every member of Girl Scouting.

The Girl Scout Promise is the way Girl Scouts agree to act every day toward one another and other people.

The Girl Scout Law outlines a way to act towards one another and the world.

The Black Pledge The Black Panther Pledge October 26, 1968 by Shirley Williams

I pledge allegiance to my Black People.

I pledge to develop my mind and body to the greatest extent possible.

I will learn all that I can in order to give my best to my People in their struggle for liberation.

I will unselfishly share my knowledge and understanding with them in order to bring about change more quickly.

I will discipline myself to direct my energies thoughtfully and constructively rather than wasting them in idle hatred.

I will train myself never to hurt or allow others to harm my Black brothers and sisters.

for I recognize that we need every Black Man, Woman, and Child to be physically, mentally and psychologically strong.

These principles I pledge to practice daily and to teach them to others in order to unite my People.


Let’s examine this pledge

Line 1  I pledge allegiance to my Black People. Allegiance, means support and cooperation. It meant that I will come to your defense if you need me.   Do you see a problem so far?

Line 2  I pledge to develop my mind and body to the greatest extent possible.

To develop my mind and body to the greatest extent possible. Is anything wrong with physical fitness, and intellect?

Line 3  I will learn all that I can in order to give my best to my People in their struggle for liberation.

Learn all that I can – do you have a problem with education for black youth?

To give my best to my people in their struggle for liberation. No one is suggesting a revolution, but a change has got to come. Change can be affected in the arts, in the sciences, and in the humanities.

It can take place in homes, on playgrounds and in the church. Change can happen in politics and in industry. This is not a bad thing.

The liberation that is being spoken of is more psychological then physical.  Consider liberation from the mental hold that seems to have followed us from slavery,  through the civil rights movement, and into today.

It suggest that we should be able to free ourselves from the impact of hundreds of years of institutional

discrimination, both conscious and unconscious. This is a call for us to do something about our own situation.

Line 4  I will keep myself physically fit, building a strong body free from drugs and other substances which weaken me and make me less capable of protecting myself, my family and my Black brothers and sisters.

Physical fitness, purposeful nutrition, and abstinence from things that affect you mental awareness and physical well being. Is there a problem yet.

Protect my self… Every man desires to protect his home and family, right?

Line 5  I will discipline myself to direct my energies thoughtfully and constructively rather than wasting them in idle hatred.

Discipline and positive use of energy and effort. I don’t see a problem yet.

Line 6  I will train myself never to hurt or allow others to harm my Black brothers and sisters

Care and concern for your own kind and humanity in general. Not an issue in my book.

Line 7  for I recognize that we need every Black Man, Woman, and Child to be physically, mentally and psychologically strong.

Is there a problem with a community of strong, healthy, mentally stable Black Folks?

Line 8  These principles I pledge to practice daily and to teach them to others in order to unite my People.

Unity, we live in the United States of America.

If you review this pledge, you will see that I am practicing this every day. That is what My Village Project is all about.

Side note  When I finished writing this article, I went into the living room, the TV was on. It was Jet Li’s Fearless, the movie was at the part when all of the fighters stood together and said a pledge, this is what I heard.

…”must not disagree or fight one another, we must remain strong, so that we can be strong as a nation.

What a coincidence!

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother