Fun Times With Dad

my dad

I just finished a term paper, for a class that I am taking.

The topic was, How a fathers care and attention impacts a child’s life. It was based on a research article about a Fathers’ Warm Care giving.

It stated all of the obvious data, and a few new things to consider. A child fares better when there are two parents in the home. A child in a single parent situation is more likely to face poverty and the troubles associated with poverty.

A child who does not have a father in the home is more likely to become a teenage parent and more likely to indulge in drugs, alcohol, and cigarette smoking. A child without a father in the home is more likely to engage in delinquent behavior. You get it.

That is not to say that, because, a child is in a single parent home, the world is going to come crashing down on him or her. There are many fatherless families with children who turn out to be just fine, and in some cases spectacular.

This is the result of powerful parenting on the part of the mother or single father.

Sometimes there is support from friends family and the larger community.

Every now and then things turn out great because they were wonderful children anyway.

Warm parenting is described as nurturing, responsive, positive, interactions by the father.

You know, the kind of stuff you see on TV. The report studied how a father’s warm interactions with his child, between the ages of birth and age 3 affected the child in later life.

The children who had the warm interactions, whether the father was in the home or not, did better on every measure. The did better in preschool, 2 grade, 5th grade and on into adolescence and early adulthood.

This got me to thinking about how it was growing up in my nearly perfect two parent home with a stay at home mom and a kind dad who made good money and did not run the streets.

It was great. We had simple fun, if my dad mowed the lawn, I was walking in his footsteps. If my dad fixed the TV, I was hanging over his shoulder and requesting that he take out all of the scarey stuff.

When my dad put up a picket fence, I was right there, of course, the picket that I cut was totally backwards. It was so backwards that you couldn’t flip it over. So my dad used that as the interest piece on the gate.

Friday was ice cream day, it didn’t matter how many kids were on the sidewalk, we all piled in and rode to the local diary queen or we made these fantastic grape soda ice cream floats in the kitchen.

Our fun came from long rides exploring the country side. The challenge was to see how many fox you could spot. We would drive over to Drayton Plains and Watch the parachute jumpers. And we would spend long days at the state park.

It was all so simple, but so much fun. Dads, whether you are in the home or not, make it a point to spend warm, quality, simple time with your children. You can’t underestimate the impact of that.

My dad is still alive today, I am 55 he is 84.

Thanks Dad for a Wonderful Life.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village,

The Village Mother


Building a Community

I saw this poster in an office, it is good advice for all of us. Some of the items may be impractical for your particular situation, I am sure you can employ a few of these.

You may not be able to change the world,

but you can make your corner better.






















It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project
Take care of your village
The Village Mother

What Would You Give Up?

What Would You Give Up? Image


Click here for more information on Alternatives For Girls.


Today is the annual undergarment drive to benefit Alternatives For Girls.


This drive is hosted by Radio Personality, Mildred Gaddis, from WCHB, RADIO ONE, here in Detroit, Michigan.


It is too late to bring new undergarments to the radio station, but it is not too late to support the effort.


There are over 700,000 residents in the city of Detroit. What would be the impact, if each resident gave just $2, $5 or $10? For the average person that’s not more than a cup of coffee or a fast food lunch.


What if everyone in Detroit chose one local organization and gave the organization of their choice $5 a month?


Would you be willing to give up your lunch for one day to help someone else?


Here is how you can help alternatives for girls;


A) send a check, or money order. To Alternatives For Girls 903 W. Grand Blvd Detroit, MI 48208


B)Donate Online


C) Send new in package undergarments for young women between the ages of 14 and 21 to

Alternatives For Girls 903 W. Grand Blvd Detroit, MI 48208



Remember to keep it decent



It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project


Take care of your village


The Village Mother

What Women Wear

What Women Wear                                                                                                                                                   Image

The local talk radio program did a segment on what women should not wear, the audience called in and voiced their opinion

Here is a recap of the things women should not wear in public.

This article goes with the grooming and dress section of the My Village Project Program.

Also see my article, The chick with the diamond eyelashes.

Jeans that allow your crack to show

No foundation garments

leggings and tights without a top that covers your hips

pajama pants in public

head rags, and  scarves

open toe shoes with feet that are no maintained

odd wrong and bright-colored lipsticks

tops that allow your all to show

regular clothes while pregnant

Tattoos all over

night club clothing in day time situations

raggedy weave

cheap wigs

not knowing the difference between sexy, sensual and nasty

poor hygiene

over done make up

lack of clothing in church

too small clothing

Things that are not appropriate for your age

Here is another opportunity for you to have a conversation with the young people in you life.  This topic can also be used to discuss what young men should not wear. The radio host said she is saving that topic for another day.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother

The Things We Take For Granted

I opened the fridge to get a glass of juice. I turned back to put the juice away. Oh no! Panic set in. The fridge was dark. Flip the lights, fuse okay. Open the door again, still dark. Push the little light button, but nothing happened. I close the door and whisper a silent prayer.  HMMMMM, just then the fan kicks in. Thank Goodness, it is only a blown bulb.


I never realized the importance of that little bulb in the back of the fridge. So I began to think, what other mundane things do we take for granted? Tissue in the bathroom? Soap in the closet?





What about the things that make our lives easier or more interesting?


Here are some things that we would all miss.









television since the 30’s Color TV cable TV since the 40’s VCR DVD MP3 electronic download







microwave they cost around $500 in 1967


The Car. The best development of all times. The keyed ignition you’ve seen the hand crank on old movies. Automatic transmission Everything was a stick shift.











Cell Phones





computers copy machines


the furnace, beats the fireplace or iron stove.


pre packaged food Jiffy mix shake N bake and hamburger helper, were the start of it all.


Vanilla Flavoring not widely available before 1900



Remember, it all started somewhere. We are thankful that it all exists. Let’s not take it all for granted.




Justice for Kendrick

Kendrick Johnson, was a  young man who went to school one day and never came home.

The next morning, he was found dead in the gym, behind the bleachers, under a mat, head down in some kind of hole.

The family is devastated, they feel that this was no accident.  They are seeking justice for their son.

Please go to  Read the story, view the pictures. Support them in the way that best suits you.

If you have nothing decent to add to this families tragedy, please do not contact them.

Playing the Race Card?

Here in Detroit, we get the Rev. Al Sharpton, National Action Network, radio show. Occasionally he will pose a question about race in America and open the topic for discussion.

One of the questions that he asked is how do you identify yourself, are you Negro,Colored, Black, Black in America, or African-American? Most of the callers considered themselves to be Black, or Black in America. The reasons, for their choice of self-identification, were many. But the general consensus was, that the politics of the day took away our African ties, we lost most of our heritage and lineage, which is what makes you part of a particular nationality or demographic. The Africans consider us American and the Americans consider us African, one song writer put it like this “American Fruit with Roots.

The next question he asked was “Should we teach our children Black History?” Most of the callers agreed that we should teach our children black history. Some callers said the past is the past, let it go. They also thought that acknowledging, how we came to be here in America, holds us back from making real progress.

I believe that we do have to teach our youth the full history of Black people in America. The public school system in general is not teaching black history at all or it is limited to Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Rosa Parks and the Black History Month Project. There are some Afro centered schools that do emphasize Black History, but there are not enough of them to teach all of our children.

Black History should be part of teaching our children the things they need to know, to get along in life. “He who controls the past controls the future” George Orwell.

When we watch war movies, we are watching a broadcast version of the history of the United States Military, When we Honor Pearl Harbor, we are participating in keeping the history in the forefront so that we do not forget.

Race is part of our history, you can not tell the story of Black People in America, if you don’t talk about race, and the implications that being of on race or another had on you. Consider “A Raisin in the Sun”

If we should not forget Pearl Harbor, D-Day and other historical events why should we forget our history? example;  The Act Prohibiting Importation of Slaves, enacted March 2, 1807. The act is a United States federal law that stated that no new slaves were permitted to be imported into the United States. It took effect in 1808, the earliest date permitted by the United States Constitution.

The Wanderer is the last documented ship to bring a cargo of slaves from Africa to the United States (November 28, 1858), approximately 409 of the enslaved Africans had survived.

The importation of slaves continued on a regular basis even though the practice had been prohibited since 1808. The federal government prosecuted the owner and crew of the Wanderer, but failed to win a conviction.

Should we forget Amistad?, The Mende People were captured in Africa and were being transported to America. In July 1839, thirty years after 1808, the Africans took control of the ship. La Amistad was captured off the coast of Long Island by the Revenue Cutter USS Washington. The case, United States v. The Amistad (1841) was finally decided by the Supreme Court of the United States in favor of the Mende, restoring their freedom. It became a symbol in the movement to abolish slavery.

The Emancipation Proclamation January 1, 1863 freed some slaves, but not all slaves were free until the Thirteenth Amendment.

The thirteenth amendment passed in January 1865 and was ratified in December 1865, The Army freed the last slaves in July, l865.

The Black Code Laws and Jim Crow Laws began in 1866 and were still in force until after the civil rights demonstrations of the 1960’s The civil rights act 1964 , the voting rights act 1965 , the fair housing act 1968, and the end of segregation laws nationwide,

we know that the end of the law did not immediately mean the end of the practice.

We need to teach our youth Black History, we can’t afford not to.

History must be written of, by and for the survivors.
Anonymous –

If the past has been an obstacle and a burden, knowledge of the past is the safest and the surest emancipation.
Lord Acton –

He who has money, lives long: he who has authority, can do no wrong: he who has might, establishes right. Such is history! Ecce historia!
Gottfried Benn –

If history teaches anything about the causes of revolution…it is that a disintegration of political systems precedes revolutions… the telling symptom of disintegration is a progressive erosion of governmental authority… that this erosion is caused by the government’s inability to function properly, from which spring the citizens’ doubts about its legitimacy.
Hannah Arendt –

Whoever wishes to foresee the future must consult the past; for human events ever resemble those of preceding times. This arises from the fact that they are produced by men who ever have been, and ever shall be, animated by the same passions, and thus they necessarily have the same results.
Machiavelli –

A country without a memory is a country of madmen.
George Santayana –

A page of history is worth a volume of logic. O. W. Holmes –

The supreme purpose of history is a better world.
Herbert Hoover

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project

Take Care Of Your Village

The Village Mother