The Community Has Influence.



When I grew up we lived in a community of family and neighbors. Everyone took part in the teaching, training and raising of the children. A community is not a place, a building or a zip code, it is however, a group of people who share common values, interests and concerns. Their beliefs and attitudes shape their behavior.

A community can be an extended family, an ethnic group, or a group of people who share a common experience or history. If everyone acts in the best interest of his neighbors, then a neighborhood is generally a community.
The Tribal cultures embody the best example of community.  Generally, they have a chief or Head Elder, usually one of the older men in the group. There is typically a council of elders, these are other men and women in the group who have proven themselves to be mature, wise and resourceful. They have gained the respect of the community through their maturity wisdom and resourcefulness. And of course, there is the counsel of women, they are responsible for the care and nurturing of the entire village. They teach customs, crafts, and social norms.
Even the children and teenagers support the community They have chores that keep the community clean and orderly. Some may prepare meals or care for the young as their contribution. Others may collect water, clean the yard, tend the garden or take care of small livestock as their contribution.
Here in the United States, we have homes,extended families, and neighborhoods, rather than villages. However, the structure is similar. Everyone in the community has a responsibility for taking care of the family, the home and the neighborhood. Thus the adage, “ It takes a Village to raise a child.” It is a community effort.

In the rural village communities, everyone in the community must follow the rules and do their part. If the sheep watcher does not protect the sheep, there will be no meat, no wool for clothes. If the home person does not take care of the garden, and the chickens, there will be no food. If the children don’t do their part, the entire community could fall into chaos.

Every member of a community should display good character and the values that are important to that community. Character is the type of person that you are, whether you are lazy, or hard working, honest or dishonest. And values are all of the parts that make up character, the things that are right and acceptable, because you have learned those values from the community as a whole.
The community encourages dedication to family, respect to all, education, personal growth, and development. It encourages each of us to be our best and to do our best no matter what.

The community culture is one of respect, decency and kindness. It embraces shared knowledge and wisdom. The community understands and honors heritage. It encourages community effort and community economics. For your sake and ours,be a part of the community.

This blog uses articles, poems, short stories and quotes.  Each post is a lesson. 

Knowledge is everywhere. Learn all that you can. Use what you learn.

Become a part of your community. Encourage the young people to do the same.

Community is vital.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good.


Welcome to Kindergarten

Welcome to Kindergarten Clipart


This excerpt is full of so much wisdom. Please use the thoughts in this piece to influence a kinder gentler community.

All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten from the book by Robert Fulghum.

ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten.

Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate-school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.

Share everything                                                                                                                                          Play fair
Don’t hit people
Put things back where you found them
Clean up your own mess
Don’t take things that aren’t yours
Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody
Wash your hands before you eat

Live a balanced life – learn some and think some
and draw and paint and sing and dance and play
and work every day some
Take a nap every afternoon

When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic,
hold hands, and stick together

Be aware of wonder
Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup:
The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody
really knows how or why, but we are all like that

Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even
the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die
So do we

And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books
and the first word you learned – the biggest
word of all – LOOK

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere
The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation
Ecology and politics and equality and sane living
Take any of those items and extrapolate it into
sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your
family life or your work or your government or
your world and it holds true and clear and firm

Think what a better world it would be if
all – the whole world – had cookies and milk about
three o’clock every afternoon and then lay down with
our blankets for a nap

Or if all governments
had a basic policy to always put items back where
they found them and to clean up their own mess
And it is still true, no matter how old you
are – when you go out into the world, it is best
to hold hands and stick together

Remind the young people in your life to be kind and considerate. Encourage them to use the lessons that they learned early in life.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good

Fun Times With Dad

my dad

I just finished a term paper, for a class that I am taking.

The topic was, How a fathers care and attention impacts a child’s life. It was based on a research article about a Fathers’ Warm Care giving.

It stated all of the obvious data, and a few new things to consider. A child fares better when there are two parents in the home. A child in a single parent situation is more likely to face poverty and the troubles associated with poverty.

A child who does not have a father in the home is more likely to become a teenage parent and more likely to indulge in drugs, alcohol, and cigarette smoking. A child without a father in the home is more likely to engage in delinquent behavior. You get it.

That is not to say that, because, a child is in a single parent home, the world is going to come crashing down on him or her. There are many fatherless families with children who turn out to be just fine, and in some cases spectacular.

This is the result of powerful parenting on the part of the mother or single father.

Sometimes there is support from friends family and the larger community.

Every now and then things turn out great because they were wonderful children anyway.

Warm parenting is described as nurturing, responsive, positive, interactions by the father.

You know, the kind of stuff you see on TV. The report studied how a father’s warm interactions with his child, between the ages of birth and age 3 affected the child in later life.

The children who had the warm interactions, whether the father was in the home or not, did better on every measure. The did better in preschool, 2 grade, 5th grade and on into adolescence and early adulthood.

This got me to thinking about how it was growing up in my nearly perfect two parent home with a stay at home mom and a kind dad who made good money and did not run the streets.

It was great. We had simple fun, if my dad mowed the lawn, I was walking in his footsteps. If my dad fixed the TV, I was hanging over his shoulder and requesting that he take out all of the scarey stuff.

When my dad put up a picket fence, I was right there, of course, the picket that I cut was totally backwards. It was so backwards that you couldn’t flip it over. So my dad used that as the interest piece on the gate.

Friday was ice cream day, it didn’t matter how many kids were on the sidewalk, we all piled in and rode to the local diary queen or we made these fantastic grape soda ice cream floats in the kitchen.

Our fun came from long rides exploring the country side. The challenge was to see how many fox you could spot. We would drive over to Drayton Plains and Watch the parachute jumpers. And we would spend long days at the state park.

It was all so simple, but so much fun. Dads, whether you are in the home or not, make it a point to spend warm, quality, simple time with your children. You can’t underestimate the impact of that.

My dad is still alive today, I am 55 he is 84.

Thanks Dad for a Wonderful Life.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village,

The Village Mother

Building a Community

I saw this poster in an office, it is good advice for all of us. Some of the items may be impractical for your particular situation, I am sure you can employ a few of these.

You may not be able to change the world,

but you can make your corner better.






















It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project
Take care of your village
The Village Mother

What Would You Give Up?

What Would You Give Up? Image


Click here for more information on Alternatives For Girls.


Today is the annual undergarment drive to benefit Alternatives For Girls.


This drive is hosted by Radio Personality, Mildred Gaddis, from WCHB, RADIO ONE, here in Detroit, Michigan.


It is too late to bring new undergarments to the radio station, but it is not too late to support the effort.


There are over 700,000 residents in the city of Detroit. What would be the impact, if each resident gave just $2, $5 or $10? For the average person that’s not more than a cup of coffee or a fast food lunch.


What if everyone in Detroit chose one local organization and gave the organization of their choice $5 a month?


Would you be willing to give up your lunch for one day to help someone else?


Here is how you can help alternatives for girls;


A) send a check, or money order. To Alternatives For Girls 903 W. Grand Blvd Detroit, MI 48208


B)Donate Online


C) Send new in package undergarments for young women between the ages of 14 and 21 to

Alternatives For Girls 903 W. Grand Blvd Detroit, MI 48208



Remember to keep it decent



It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project


Take care of your village


The Village Mother

What Women Wear

What Women Wear                                                                                                                                                   Image

The local talk radio program did a segment on what women should not wear, the audience called in and voiced their opinion

Here is a recap of the things women should not wear in public.

This article goes with the grooming and dress section of the My Village Project Program.

Also see my article, The chick with the diamond eyelashes.

Jeans that allow your crack to show

No foundation garments

leggings and tights without a top that covers your hips

pajama pants in public

head rags, and  scarves

open toe shoes with feet that are no maintained

odd wrong and bright-colored lipsticks

tops that allow your all to show

regular clothes while pregnant

Tattoos all over

night club clothing in day time situations

raggedy weave

cheap wigs

not knowing the difference between sexy, sensual and nasty

poor hygiene

over done make up

lack of clothing in church

too small clothing

Things that are not appropriate for your age

Here is another opportunity for you to have a conversation with the young people in you life.  This topic can also be used to discuss what young men should not wear. The radio host said she is saving that topic for another day.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother