The Community Has Influence.



When I grew up we lived in a community of family and neighbors. Everyone took part in the teaching, training and raising of the children. A community is not a place, a building or a zip code, it is however, a group of people who share common values, interests and concerns. Their beliefs and attitudes shape their behavior.

A community can be an extended family, an ethnic group, or a group of people who share a common experience or history. If everyone acts in the best interest of his neighbors, then a neighborhood is generally a community.
The Tribal cultures embody the best example of community.  Generally, they have a chief or Head Elder, usually one of the older men in the group. There is typically a council of elders, these are other men and women in the group who have proven themselves to be mature, wise and resourceful. They have gained the respect of the community through their maturity wisdom and resourcefulness. And of course, there is the counsel of women, they are responsible for the care and nurturing of the entire village. They teach customs, crafts, and social norms.
Even the children and teenagers support the community They have chores that keep the community clean and orderly. Some may prepare meals or care for the young as their contribution. Others may collect water, clean the yard, tend the garden or take care of small livestock as their contribution.
Here in the United States, we have homes,extended families, and neighborhoods, rather than villages. However, the structure is similar. Everyone in the community has a responsibility for taking care of the family, the home and the neighborhood. Thus the adage, “ It takes a Village to raise a child.” It is a community effort.

In the rural village communities, everyone in the community must follow the rules and do their part. If the sheep watcher does not protect the sheep, there will be no meat, no wool for clothes. If the home person does not take care of the garden, and the chickens, there will be no food. If the children don’t do their part, the entire community could fall into chaos.

Every member of a community should display good character and the values that are important to that community. Character is the type of person that you are, whether you are lazy, or hard working, honest or dishonest. And values are all of the parts that make up character, the things that are right and acceptable, because you have learned those values from the community as a whole.
The community encourages dedication to family, respect to all, education, personal growth, and development. It encourages each of us to be our best and to do our best no matter what.

The community culture is one of respect, decency and kindness. It embraces shared knowledge and wisdom. The community understands and honors heritage. It encourages community effort and community economics. For your sake and ours,be a part of the community.

This blog uses articles, poems, short stories and quotes.  Each post is a lesson. 

Knowledge is everywhere. Learn all that you can. Use what you learn.

Become a part of your community. Encourage the young people to do the same.

Community is vital.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good.


Welcome to Kindergarten

Welcome to Kindergarten Clipart


This excerpt is full of so much wisdom. Please use the thoughts in this piece to influence a kinder gentler community.

All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten from the book by Robert Fulghum.

ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten.

Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate-school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.

Share everything                                                                                                                                          Play fair
Don’t hit people
Put things back where you found them
Clean up your own mess
Don’t take things that aren’t yours
Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody
Wash your hands before you eat

Live a balanced life – learn some and think some
and draw and paint and sing and dance and play
and work every day some
Take a nap every afternoon

When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic,
hold hands, and stick together

Be aware of wonder
Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup:
The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody
really knows how or why, but we are all like that

Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even
the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die
So do we

And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books
and the first word you learned – the biggest
word of all – LOOK

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere
The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation
Ecology and politics and equality and sane living
Take any of those items and extrapolate it into
sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your
family life or your work or your government or
your world and it holds true and clear and firm

Think what a better world it would be if
all – the whole world – had cookies and milk about
three o’clock every afternoon and then lay down with
our blankets for a nap

Or if all governments
had a basic policy to always put items back where
they found them and to clean up their own mess
And it is still true, no matter how old you
are – when you go out into the world, it is best
to hold hands and stick together

Remind the young people in your life to be kind and considerate. Encourage them to use the lessons that they learned early in life.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good

You Have Influence

Auntie Starshine’s Influence Project


What distinguishes man from the animals is, the influence that the society he lives in has upon him. Anonymous

Influence is a subtle force yet a strong motivator. It is the impact that we have upon each others thoughts and actions. We influence people through our words and individual actions.

By using the power of influence through celebrity spokespersons marketers convince the public to purchase certain products. Understanding the power of influence, how can we gain the attention of our youth and influence their future success?

The behaviors that used to be youthful explorations of self expression have now become cultural norms, there are mature adults who still dress and behave like teenagers.

I want to have a positive influence upon the lives Black youth in America. If you are a parent or someone who has a mentoring heart, join me and connect with a few youth from your neighborhood. Meet with them once a week to inform and encourage them.

Our youth are denigrated in movies, music and the nightly news. My goal is to improve the opinions that others have about the Black community as well as improve the statistics of our youth, namely: self respect and disrespect, vulgarity, poor grooming and dress, lack of direction, the drop out rate, job skills and employment, youth violence, drug use, pregnancy and sexual activity

The blog will feature relevant topics which, can be supplemented by discussion, media material, activities, appearances by local figures and organizations as well as exposure to positive examples through media, and cultural activities. This blog emphasizes personal responsibility and self respect. We all have influence, let us influence a better community.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good

Fun Times With Dad

my dad

I just finished a term paper, for a class that I am taking.

The topic was, How a fathers care and attention impacts a child’s life. It was based on a research article about a Fathers’ Warm Care giving.

It stated all of the obvious data, and a few new things to consider. A child fares better when there are two parents in the home. A child in a single parent situation is more likely to face poverty and the troubles associated with poverty.

A child who does not have a father in the home is more likely to become a teenage parent and more likely to indulge in drugs, alcohol, and cigarette smoking. A child without a father in the home is more likely to engage in delinquent behavior. You get it.

That is not to say that, because, a child is in a single parent home, the world is going to come crashing down on him or her. There are many fatherless families with children who turn out to be just fine, and in some cases spectacular.

This is the result of powerful parenting on the part of the mother or single father.

Sometimes there is support from friends family and the larger community.

Every now and then things turn out great because they were wonderful children anyway.

Warm parenting is described as nurturing, responsive, positive, interactions by the father.

You know, the kind of stuff you see on TV. The report studied how a father’s warm interactions with his child, between the ages of birth and age 3 affected the child in later life.

The children who had the warm interactions, whether the father was in the home or not, did better on every measure. The did better in preschool, 2 grade, 5th grade and on into adolescence and early adulthood.

This got me to thinking about how it was growing up in my nearly perfect two parent home with a stay at home mom and a kind dad who made good money and did not run the streets.

It was great. We had simple fun, if my dad mowed the lawn, I was walking in his footsteps. If my dad fixed the TV, I was hanging over his shoulder and requesting that he take out all of the scarey stuff.

When my dad put up a picket fence, I was right there, of course, the picket that I cut was totally backwards. It was so backwards that you couldn’t flip it over. So my dad used that as the interest piece on the gate.

Friday was ice cream day, it didn’t matter how many kids were on the sidewalk, we all piled in and rode to the local diary queen or we made these fantastic grape soda ice cream floats in the kitchen.

Our fun came from long rides exploring the country side. The challenge was to see how many fox you could spot. We would drive over to Drayton Plains and Watch the parachute jumpers. And we would spend long days at the state park.

It was all so simple, but so much fun. Dads, whether you are in the home or not, make it a point to spend warm, quality, simple time with your children. You can’t underestimate the impact of that.

My dad is still alive today, I am 55 he is 84.

Thanks Dad for a Wonderful Life.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village,

The Village Mother

The Fire Challenge

The Fire Challenge

man on fire

I learned to stay away from fire before I was 2 years old.

How old were you when you learned about fire?

I saw the craziest thing on the news recently, it is called the FIRE  CHALLENGE.

Young people were actually setting themselves ablaze and then jumping in the shower.

The news showed young kids between the age of 10 and 14 who have suffered 2nd and 3rd degree burns as a result of this challenge.

You ask yourself what has gone wrong with our children that we have to remind them that fire is dangerous?

This challenge really worried me, so I started a conversation with my 13 year old grandson. He said, “Yeah I saw that but, I didn’t want to try it”. Thank Goodness

Then he tells me that he did the snow challenge! Do you know what a snow challenge is? Well, you take off all of your clothes and jump in the snow, you stay there as long as you can. Mmm, hypothermia, frost bite, shock, and a possible loss of body parts, and this is fun?

He also told me about the salt challenge, our children need help, please talk to the young people in your life about these internet challenges.

Since I wrote this article, I have seen a shift in the application of these challenges.

The Ice challenge is a challenge of celebrities, to have a bucket of ice water dumped on their heads, each celebrity in turn challenges 3 or 4 others, they all make a donation to the ALS Charity. That is an excellent use of a dumb challenge.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother

Respect and Other People’s Children

I had an encounter with a kid the other day that made me want to drag her home by her ear, and demand that the mother spank her right in front of me.

I had walked out of my front door that day to see about a half dozen neighborhood kids, climbing on top of a car. Granted that half of the kids on the car belonged to the owner of the car. I have seen this many times before and usually just give a warning to be careful.

This day I say a 12 year old neighbor from down the street, walk; from the front bumper, across the hood, over the windshield, down the back glass, and across the trunk. All of this was so that she could sit on the trunk of the car.

I said to the group in general, “does your mother know that you are walking all over her car?”, there was no response from the 10 and 12 year old kids. But, the 7 year old said just loud enough for me to hear her, erk, no one’s listening, I muttered something under my breath about a smart A** child, and continued what I was doing.

As I worked with the rear door of my car, I could hear the 7 year old, laughing in a too loud and much exaggerated manner. I ignored her, I will not engage a child, so as I prepared to leave, I promised myself that I would speak to her mother about her behavior, just as soon as I could.

The following morning the same child came to my porch to play with my 7 year old grandchild. I politely told her that because of her behavior she was not welcome at my house.

I think that I enjoyed setting her straight myself, more than I would have enjoyed talking to her mother about the situation. I have no issue with the mother, she has 2 or 3 other children who are quite polite and very well mannered.

The point is that you can get respect, without losing your cool.

Have a Great Day!