Fun Times With Dad

my dad

I just finished a term paper, for a class that I am taking.

The topic was, How a fathers care and attention impacts a child’s life. It was based on a research article about a Fathers’ Warm Care giving.

It stated all of the obvious data, and a few new things to consider. A child fares better when there are two parents in the home. A child in a single parent situation is more likely to face poverty and the troubles associated with poverty.

A child who does not have a father in the home is more likely to become a teenage parent and more likely to indulge in drugs, alcohol, and cigarette smoking. A child without a father in the home is more likely to engage in delinquent behavior. You get it.

That is not to say that, because, a child is in a single parent home, the world is going to come crashing down on him or her. There are many fatherless families with children who turn out to be just fine, and in some cases spectacular.

This is the result of powerful parenting on the part of the mother or single father.

Sometimes there is support from friends family and the larger community.

Every now and then things turn out great because they were wonderful children anyway.

Warm parenting is described as nurturing, responsive, positive, interactions by the father.

You know, the kind of stuff you see on TV. The report studied how a father’s warm interactions with his child, between the ages of birth and age 3 affected the child in later life.

The children who had the warm interactions, whether the father was in the home or not, did better on every measure. The did better in preschool, 2 grade, 5th grade and on into adolescence and early adulthood.

This got me to thinking about how it was growing up in my nearly perfect two parent home with a stay at home mom and a kind dad who made good money and did not run the streets.

It was great. We had simple fun, if my dad mowed the lawn, I was walking in his footsteps. If my dad fixed the TV, I was hanging over his shoulder and requesting that he take out all of the scarey stuff.

When my dad put up a picket fence, I was right there, of course, the picket that I cut was totally backwards. It was so backwards that you couldn’t flip it over. So my dad used that as the interest piece on the gate.

Friday was ice cream day, it didn’t matter how many kids were on the sidewalk, we all piled in and rode to the local diary queen or we made these fantastic grape soda ice cream floats in the kitchen.

Our fun came from long rides exploring the country side. The challenge was to see how many fox you could spot. We would drive over to Drayton Plains and Watch the parachute jumpers. And we would spend long days at the state park.

It was all so simple, but so much fun. Dads, whether you are in the home or not, make it a point to spend warm, quality, simple time with your children. You can’t underestimate the impact of that.

My dad is still alive today, I am 55 he is 84.

Thanks Dad for a Wonderful Life.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village,

The Village Mother


The Fire Challenge

The Fire Challenge

man on fire

I learned to stay away from fire before I was 2 years old.

How old were you when you learned about fire?

I saw the craziest thing on the news recently, it is called the FIRE  CHALLENGE.

Young people were actually setting themselves ablaze and then jumping in the shower.

The news showed young kids between the age of 10 and 14 who have suffered 2nd and 3rd degree burns as a result of this challenge.

You ask yourself what has gone wrong with our children that we have to remind them that fire is dangerous?

This challenge really worried me, so I started a conversation with my 13 year old grandson. He said, “Yeah I saw that but, I didn’t want to try it”. Thank Goodness

Then he tells me that he did the snow challenge! Do you know what a snow challenge is? Well, you take off all of your clothes and jump in the snow, you stay there as long as you can. Mmm, hypothermia, frost bite, shock, and a possible loss of body parts, and this is fun?

He also told me about the salt challenge, our children need help, please talk to the young people in your life about these internet challenges.

Since I wrote this article, I have seen a shift in the application of these challenges.

The Ice challenge is a challenge of celebrities, to have a bucket of ice water dumped on their heads, each celebrity in turn challenges 3 or 4 others, they all make a donation to the ALS Charity. That is an excellent use of a dumb challenge.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother

Happy Birthday to MVP

Happy Birthday to MVP birthday cake

It is the first Anniversary of My Village Project,.

Since, August 2014, I have posted close to 100 articles and gained close to 60 followers.

Thank you all for taking the time to read what I write.

My posts don’t get a lot of conversation or a ton of likes, that’s okay.

My Goal is to inform and encourage; I want to inform you about the issues facing our youth and encourage you to mentor the youth in your life.

Please feel free to use my posts as a platform for conversation with the young people in your life.

My mentoring efforts have been focused on my grandchildren and the children on my block. I still desire to expand my efforts to a greater areal of the community.

I recently wrote an article called the boogie man. This week I was reminded that the boogie man is real

On August, 9, 2014 Michael Brown, an 18 year old youth, who was visiting family in St Louis Mo, was shot and killed by a police officer. We don’t know all of the details, but the people who observed the incident say that the action was not justified, the young man had his hands in the air.

Over the July 4, holiday, a young man in Chicago was shot and killed by the police. People who observed the incident say that the young man had is hands in the air. . His name was Warren Robinson.

On July 17, 2014 In New York, Eric Garner, died as a result of a very aggressive arrest attempt.

California Highway Patrol officers beat a woman right on the side of the freeway.

Remember the Jena 6? Tray von Martin, Kendrick Johnson, Rodney King? Yes the boogie man is alive and is changing his strategy.

I used to believe that I could teach my children to be respectful and compliant when dealing with the police. I am not sure anymore.

Add these incidents to youth violence and gang activity, teen pregnancy, drug and alcohol use, car accidents, sporting accidents, incarceration, child abuse, kidnappings and other tragedies, and you can understand my concern.

Please mentor someone today.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is my village project.

The Village Mother.

Lessons from The Sword InThe Stone

the sowrd and  the stone

Lessons from The Sword in The Stone

This week I watched the sword in the stone. It had some basic all around lessons.

Download this on Netflix and have a discussion with your children about some of the life lessons you will find.

Here are a few quotes from the movie with my take for today’s life below.

Lesson 1 “You have to have a decent education. A real education includes; math, history, biology, natural science, english,and other languages.”

Then there is the education of experience and gained wisdom.

Lesson 2 “Develop your brain, knowledge, wisdom, and higher learning are the real power.”

Always look for opportunities to learn, not all learning comes from a classroom.

Lesson 3 “Open your mind”

Don’t get stuck in the here and now, think about the future and other possibilities.

Lesson 4 “How do you expect to amount to anything without an education?”

Education, Education, Education.

Lesson 5  “You have got to know where you are going.” “You have to have direction in life”.

Plan  for the future.

Lesson 6 “Develop your intellect” .

When you find yourself stuck in a situation, use your brain.

Lesson 7 “Set your sights upon the heights, don’t be a mediocrity.”

Dream Big Plan Bigger.

Lesson 8 “Don’t just wait and trust in fate and say that’s the way it’s meant to be.”

After planning comes the work. Work for what you want.

Lesson 9 “It’s up to you how far you go, if you don’t try you’ll never know.”… “ nothing ventured nothing gained.

Have faith, have courage, take a chance.

Lesson 10 Look before you leap.

Make sure you have good information before you attempt anything.

It Takes a Village to Raise A Child. This is My Village Project. Take Care of Your Village

The Village Mother