Fun Times With Dad

my dad

I just finished a term paper, for a class that I am taking.

The topic was, How a fathers care and attention impacts a child’s life. It was based on a research article about a Fathers’ Warm Care giving.

It stated all of the obvious data, and a few new things to consider. A child fares better when there are two parents in the home. A child in a single parent situation is more likely to face poverty and the troubles associated with poverty.

A child who does not have a father in the home is more likely to become a teenage parent and more likely to indulge in drugs, alcohol, and cigarette smoking. A child without a father in the home is more likely to engage in delinquent behavior. You get it.

That is not to say that, because, a child is in a single parent home, the world is going to come crashing down on him or her. There are many fatherless families with children who turn out to be just fine, and in some cases spectacular.

This is the result of powerful parenting on the part of the mother or single father.

Sometimes there is support from friends family and the larger community.

Every now and then things turn out great because they were wonderful children anyway.

Warm parenting is described as nurturing, responsive, positive, interactions by the father.

You know, the kind of stuff you see on TV. The report studied how a father’s warm interactions with his child, between the ages of birth and age 3 affected the child in later life.

The children who had the warm interactions, whether the father was in the home or not, did better on every measure. The did better in preschool, 2 grade, 5th grade and on into adolescence and early adulthood.

This got me to thinking about how it was growing up in my nearly perfect two parent home with a stay at home mom and a kind dad who made good money and did not run the streets.

It was great. We had simple fun, if my dad mowed the lawn, I was walking in his footsteps. If my dad fixed the TV, I was hanging over his shoulder and requesting that he take out all of the scarey stuff.

When my dad put up a picket fence, I was right there, of course, the picket that I cut was totally backwards. It was so backwards that you couldn’t flip it over. So my dad used that as the interest piece on the gate.

Friday was ice cream day, it didn’t matter how many kids were on the sidewalk, we all piled in and rode to the local diary queen or we made these fantastic grape soda ice cream floats in the kitchen.

Our fun came from long rides exploring the country side. The challenge was to see how many fox you could spot. We would drive over to Drayton Plains and Watch the parachute jumpers. And we would spend long days at the state park.

It was all so simple, but so much fun. Dads, whether you are in the home or not, make it a point to spend warm, quality, simple time with your children. You can’t underestimate the impact of that.

My dad is still alive today, I am 55 he is 84.

Thanks Dad for a Wonderful Life.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village,

The Village Mother


The Fire Challenge

The Fire Challenge

man on fire

I learned to stay away from fire before I was 2 years old.

How old were you when you learned about fire?

I saw the craziest thing on the news recently, it is called the FIRE  CHALLENGE.

Young people were actually setting themselves ablaze and then jumping in the shower.

The news showed young kids between the age of 10 and 14 who have suffered 2nd and 3rd degree burns as a result of this challenge.

You ask yourself what has gone wrong with our children that we have to remind them that fire is dangerous?

This challenge really worried me, so I started a conversation with my 13 year old grandson. He said, “Yeah I saw that but, I didn’t want to try it”. Thank Goodness

Then he tells me that he did the snow challenge! Do you know what a snow challenge is? Well, you take off all of your clothes and jump in the snow, you stay there as long as you can. Mmm, hypothermia, frost bite, shock, and a possible loss of body parts, and this is fun?

He also told me about the salt challenge, our children need help, please talk to the young people in your life about these internet challenges.

Since I wrote this article, I have seen a shift in the application of these challenges.

The Ice challenge is a challenge of celebrities, to have a bucket of ice water dumped on their heads, each celebrity in turn challenges 3 or 4 others, they all make a donation to the ALS Charity. That is an excellent use of a dumb challenge.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother

Respect for the Rapper


I  now have a new respect for Rap Artists. During my monthly meeting with the grand children, the discussion turned to the gangster lifestyle portrayed by some rappers.

I told them that was all commercial but I had to research this for myself, so I did a little homework and this is what I found.

Rap music came out of a few different realities. Back in the days of the house party, Before DJ’s had two turntables, the DJ would rap, talk jive while he was setting up the turntables. Jive basically means he would talk garbage, in a rhyme following pretty close to the beat of the music, just to keep the party going.

Ya ‘ll remember the basement house party. The young people saw that they could make some money and gain some local popularity by dj’ing house parties and that was the beginning of rap.

Rap became an artistic expression of a less than perfect reality. In the 70 and 80 era a lot of the rappers did come out of ghetto situations and used rap as a vehicle to success.

They are not the hard core gangsters that they portray themselves to be. Most of the contemporary artists today are trained or educated in music no matter whether they went to school for it or learned it standing at the side of other people in the business.

True, some of the hip hop culture elements came from prison culture and yes they did have rap competitions in jail.

Most of the successful rappers, did graduate high school, most of them were not deeply involved in the Gansta World. Some did have various convictions.

Some of them were born in the projects, but raised in the suburbs. Some went to private or parochial schools.

Some are ministers, Little league football coaches, most of them appear to have a social consciousness. One was an English Honors student.

But the most important thing to take away from this lesson is that they were all intelligent deep thinking people who were, industrious, motivated and hard working.

You do not get to that level of success by accident.

From a history of rap music.

Rapping first gained popularity in the U.S. in the 1970s as a kind of street art, especially among African American teenagers. But it wasn’t until 1979, when the Sugarhill Gang released their breakaway hit, ‘Rapper’s Delight, that record producers took notice of this emerging musical genre. o­nce they did, numerous rap acts, including Run-DMC and N.W.A., surfaced, and rap’s audience began to swell. It wasn’t just African American male rappers getting in o­n the act, either: By the 1980s, white rap bands such as the Beastie Boys and female rap bands such as Salt-n-Pepa were reaching the top of the charts.

Over the next few weeks I will feature a brief bio on a few of the rap artists.

What I Did On MLK Day


What I did on MLK Day

Yesterday was Martin Luther King day,.

MLK day is the official observance of his birth date

(January 15, 1929)

To honor his memory and to continue the efforts to improve the state and status of the black community, I made an hour long presentation for my grandchildren.

I did a short Kwanzaa observance and discussed the significance of Kwanzaa. Followed by a history on the songs Lift Every Voice, and Happy Birthday To Ya by Stevie Wonder.

I told them that there is so much that they don’t know and there are people out there who hope they never know. Black history has been diluted or eliminated in the public school system.

The struggle for civil rights, equal justice and human dignity did not start with Rosa Parks. It started with the first slave who tried to run away and it continued throughout the years, with slave revolts, the UNDERGOUND RAILROAD and the ABOLISHONIST MOVEMENT. It continued with Rosa Parks and all that came after that incident and we are still in the struggle today.

I intended to close the presentation with the Speech, I have a dream, but it seems like they had that pretty well memorized.

If you did not have a conversation with the young people in your life, please take a minute to do so this weekend. You can click here  to  view what I shared with them.

When we get together next month, we will review, James Weldon Johnson and Booker T Washington

It takes a village to raise a child, this is my village project.

Take care of you village.

The Village Mother

What Women Wear

What Women Wear                                                                                                                                                   Image

The local talk radio program did a segment on what women should not wear, the audience called in and voiced their opinion

Here is a recap of the things women should not wear in public.

This article goes with the grooming and dress section of the My Village Project Program.

Also see my article, The chick with the diamond eyelashes.

Jeans that allow your crack to show

No foundation garments

leggings and tights without a top that covers your hips

pajama pants in public

head rags, and  scarves

open toe shoes with feet that are no maintained

odd wrong and bright-colored lipsticks

tops that allow your all to show

regular clothes while pregnant

Tattoos all over

night club clothing in day time situations

raggedy weave

cheap wigs

not knowing the difference between sexy, sensual and nasty

poor hygiene

over done make up

lack of clothing in church

too small clothing

Things that are not appropriate for your age

Here is another opportunity for you to have a conversation with the young people in you life.  This topic can also be used to discuss what young men should not wear. The radio host said she is saving that topic for another day.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother

Free Free Free


I  began this blog as a platform to promote the mentor program, MY Village Project.

 I  am thankful for the the followers.

This program is designed to teach the things that need to be taught in a local setting.  The book is laid out in subject form so you can pick it up and start with any subject.

The MY Village Project Program, is not a big organization  It is a tool for people who care to instruct and inform the youth in their sphere of influence or local community.

It works just as well with little cousins and kid brothers as it does with a half dozen kids from the neighborhood.

With enough caring souls we can change the world. We can give our young people the information and insight needed to ensure that they will make the decisions and choices necessary to  have successful and productive lives.

The information is much too valuable to sit on the shelf for lack of sales.  So from now through the end of January, I will send the program free, by email,  to anyone who contacts me.

Send an email with the words free program in the subject line to

I hope that there is at least one person out there who believes like I do, that if we each do a little, we can accomplish a lot.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project.

Take care of your village

The Village Mother

They may be right they may be wrong.

As you go out to do what you do, always remember people are watching you.

 People you don’t know — don’t even see.

 They make judgments on who they think you be.

 You can make them right or you can make them wrong

 You don’t know them they don’t know you. They hear what you say, they see what you do

always remember people are watching you

 Good, bad, indifferent, whatever, you will leave an impression for ever

 It don’t matter, I don’t care. I’ll never see them people anywhere.

I don’t know them, they don’t know me. What do I care what ’bout what they think.

 You might be right you might be wrong.

Bosses, buddies, yo’ future boo. Stars, athletes and future Presidents too

 People you don’t know people you don’t see.

You never know who you might meet.

Pamela Moultrie