Respect and Obedience


While in line at the store, I overheard a couple of ladies talking about the athletic event from the previous weekend. The one lady said, “The event was very nice. It’ too bad, that out team came in last place. The Coach showed poor sportsmanship by walking of the floor. I was appalled, when my daughter walked off the floor behind the coach and the other girls.

I interrupted, to ask how old the lady’s daughter was. She said, “ fifteen. I have taught her better than that, she should know not to walk off the floor during a competition”.

I said, “Yeah, at that age it must be tough to make your own decision and do whats right, despite what is going on around you. The lady didn’t agree with me but we dropped the conversation right there. A few weeks later that same conversation came to mind.

We expect our young people to always do what’s right, because that’s the way we taught them. I don’t think that mother realized that the girl was doing what she had been taught. She has been taught to respect authority and follow instructions. We all teach our children that.

She is a young lady in an athletic competition sport, she respects her coach and follows the coach’s instructions daily. When that fifteen year old girl walked off the floor behind her coach and team mates, she was doing exactly what she had been taught.

True it was poor sportsmanship for the coach to walk off the floor, But that young lady, has not quite developed the brain power to stand up for what is right in the face of authority. If she had been 21, she may have made the personal decision to stay on the floor because that is the right thing to do.

We often expect our children to make the right decision all the time. Sometimes the choices to be made are beyond their maturity level. Standing up for what is right against your peers is easier than standing up for what is right against an authority figure. When was the last time you made a bone head decision, even though you knew better.

Lets continue to teach our children and hope, that when the time comes they are equipped to make the right decision.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child,. This Is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village

The Village Mother




Influence. From Fists of Fury

In the movie Fists Of Fury, the fighting champion; decided to make his own league, in the official martial arts sport.

Like a good leader, he sought out people who respected him and would support his vision.

During the initial trainings this is what he told them.

We influence others by working together

The foreigners have bullied us long enough. It is time that we stand up for ourselves.

Why do foreigners look down on us?

Because we are not UNITED!

For years we fought – Chinese against Chinese

That is why the West bullies us weak men of the East.

What an insult!

Some of us don’t even realize how sick this country is.

This is the Jin We Sports Federation Motto learn it live it.

Body mind soul- By working together, we can better ourselves and stand strong as one nation.

We influence others through cooperation, not intimidation.

Through this ideal we will always stand strong
It Takes a Village to Raise A Child. This is My Village Project.

Take Care of Your Village

The Village Mother


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I have been MIA  for the past few months.

No matter how dedicated you are to a cause, sometimes life just gets in

the way.

When that happens we have to step back, regroup and keep on pushing.

True,  I have not been posting. But, that does not mean that I have not been thinking.

So let’s get back on track.  Remember all of my posts are intended to be suitable for conversations with the young people in

my and yours.  Mentor Someone today.  You never know how a 5 minute conversation can change someones life.






fat albert


The Fat Albert movie came on TV this week. In the movie, the cast of the Fat Albert cartoon, came out of the TV and wound up in real world Philadelphia.

Fat Albert is a hero type character, in a cartoon series, that Bill Cosby developed in the 70’s, Fat Albert and the Cosby kids.

Fat Albert protects the weak and stands up for what is right. He is virtuous, Kind, Considerate, and Athletic too.

One of the characters in the show is Dumb Donald.

During their real world adventure, the characters had all sorts of human fun, they discovered new things about themselves and the world that they found themselves in.

They also began to lose their color, they were fading away.

During their adventure, Dumb Donald got smart: In response to their dilemma, Donald said “ I have become smart enough to realize that we are fading away, we have entered into a world in which we do not belong. When you try to become someone other than who you are, you lose the essence of your true identity.

The lesson that I learned from this is be true to yourself. Be the best you, that you can be. Don’t change who truly are to fit into someone else’s box.

That is not to say don’t try to improve yourself, where improvement is needed. Just don’t lose who you are.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother


How Would You Respond

confused and outraged

I was out running errands. When, while I was at a traffic light, the car next to me was booming, what the occupants thought was, pretty great music,

They were bobbing their heads, waiving their arms and singing along.They were totally into this song.

The lyrics went, “ I will ________ that ________ I will __________ that ____________ I will ride it all night long.”

Later in the same week. I overheard the car radio of a neighbor’s visitor. The lyrics said “if you suck my__________ you can be my girl friend.” It also said some things I cant repeat here.

So my question is. Young man, blasting that music for all the world to hear—;

How would you respond if some man on the street told your 14 year old daughter come suck my________?

How would you respond if some 50 year old man told you he was just waiting for your sister to turn 17 so he could ______ that __________.

How would you respond if some jerk with his pants hanging down, invited him self to engage in any of the above with your grandmother.

Now that I have your attention, let me remind you, THERE ARE CHILDREN LISTENING!!!!

I am asking politely, for all of you who enjoy that type of music, to please listen to it in the confines and privacy of your own home.

Please be courteous and considerate of other peoples, sensibilities. Please, please, please stop playing that music in the presence of your children and mine.

Many cities have public profanity laws.this is public profanity.

Please Stop

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Projedt

Take care of your village

The Village Mother

The Fire Challenge

The Fire Challenge

man on fire

I learned to stay away from fire before I was 2 years old.

How old were you when you learned about fire?

I saw the craziest thing on the news recently, it is called the FIRE  CHALLENGE.

Young people were actually setting themselves ablaze and then jumping in the shower.

The news showed young kids between the age of 10 and 14 who have suffered 2nd and 3rd degree burns as a result of this challenge.

You ask yourself what has gone wrong with our children that we have to remind them that fire is dangerous?

This challenge really worried me, so I started a conversation with my 13 year old grandson. He said, “Yeah I saw that but, I didn’t want to try it”. Thank Goodness

Then he tells me that he did the snow challenge! Do you know what a snow challenge is? Well, you take off all of your clothes and jump in the snow, you stay there as long as you can. Mmm, hypothermia, frost bite, shock, and a possible loss of body parts, and this is fun?

He also told me about the salt challenge, our children need help, please talk to the young people in your life about these internet challenges.

Since I wrote this article, I have seen a shift in the application of these challenges.

The Ice challenge is a challenge of celebrities, to have a bucket of ice water dumped on their heads, each celebrity in turn challenges 3 or 4 others, they all make a donation to the ALS Charity. That is an excellent use of a dumb challenge.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother

Happy Birthday to MVP

Happy Birthday to MVP birthday cake

It is the first Anniversary of My Village Project,.

Since, August 2014, I have posted close to 100 articles and gained close to 60 followers.

Thank you all for taking the time to read what I write.

My posts don’t get a lot of conversation or a ton of likes, that’s okay.

My Goal is to inform and encourage; I want to inform you about the issues facing our youth and encourage you to mentor the youth in your life.

Please feel free to use my posts as a platform for conversation with the young people in your life.

My mentoring efforts have been focused on my grandchildren and the children on my block. I still desire to expand my efforts to a greater areal of the community.

I recently wrote an article called the boogie man. This week I was reminded that the boogie man is real

On August, 9, 2014 Michael Brown, an 18 year old youth, who was visiting family in St Louis Mo, was shot and killed by a police officer. We don’t know all of the details, but the people who observed the incident say that the action was not justified, the young man had his hands in the air.

Over the July 4, holiday, a young man in Chicago was shot and killed by the police. People who observed the incident say that the young man had is hands in the air. . His name was Warren Robinson.

On July 17, 2014 In New York, Eric Garner, died as a result of a very aggressive arrest attempt.

California Highway Patrol officers beat a woman right on the side of the freeway.

Remember the Jena 6? Tray von Martin, Kendrick Johnson, Rodney King? Yes the boogie man is alive and is changing his strategy.

I used to believe that I could teach my children to be respectful and compliant when dealing with the police. I am not sure anymore.

Add these incidents to youth violence and gang activity, teen pregnancy, drug and alcohol use, car accidents, sporting accidents, incarceration, child abuse, kidnappings and other tragedies, and you can understand my concern.

Please mentor someone today.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is my village project.

The Village Mother.