Currently, I am working on drinking more water. My goal is two large glasses of water daily. While drinking more water does not sound like a challenging task, it is for me. I like water. I also like coffee, tea, and colas. To improve my water intake and therefore my health and appearance, I am using a few self-discipline techniques. Continue reading “DISCIPLINE”


Readers from Around The World






As I was reviewing my blog stats, I was feeling a bit discouraged. Despite the fact that I have close to 100 followers, many of my posts get fewer than 5 reads daily. But as I reviewed the map, of viewers, I became excited and encouraged.


There are readers from Madagascar, Malaysia, South Africa, Germany, Ireland, India, Switzerland, Singapore, Australia, The Czech Republic, The U.K Canada and the U.S. too.


To the readers from all around the world. Thank you for taking a moment. It is truly encouraging to see the reach of my work.

Please continue reading and thank you for following.


Auntie Starshine




I might believe in Unicorns. The story of the Unicorn has been around for so long, that its existence is rarely questioned. Recently, I was watching a cartoon with my granddaughter; the story was about a land where fairies are the protectors of the unicorns.

Every fairy story must have a villain; and, this one was true to form. The villain stole the unicorns to cut off their horns. She used the horns to keep herself young and beautiful. However, the unicorn magic also kept the fairyland alive. Because the villain stole most of the unicorns, the fairies lamented that there were not enough unicorns to sustain the fairyland.

Just then, I wondered, does a unicorn die if you cut off his horn?  Immediately, I Googled the question.  To my embarrassment, I was well into the third article about unicorns, when it occurred to me that they do not really exist.

But then again, here I am reading all of this information about supposedly mythical creatures. That thought led to another search. The question: Are Unicorns real? Well, this is what I found.

The Unicorn is Scotland’s National Animal but, on the other hand, the Unicorn is a myth.  According to the Encyclopedia Britannica, the Unicorn is a mythological creature which appeared “in early Mesopotamian artworks, and it also was referred to in the ancient myths of India and China.”

The Unicorn appeared in Greek Literature around 400 BCE, about 3000 years ago, when the historian Ctsesias described it as the “Indian wild ass which was the size of a horse, with a white body, purple head, and blue eyes, and on its forehead was a cubit-long horn colored red at the pointed tip, black in the middle, and white at the base.”

For centuries, Unicorns have been woven into the fabric of the culture in many parts of the world. According to “Unicorns Rule, A Website For Unicorn Lovers”, Unicorns can be found in Chinese, Turkish and Medieval legends.

Many notable people throughout history have claimed to have seen a Unicorn. According to unicorn crystalinks http://www.crystalinks.com/unicorns.html Alleged Unicorn Sightings, the following people have seen a unicorn: Adam Garden of Eden Beginning of time, Emperor Fu Hsi China 5,000 years ago, Emperor Huang Di Emperor’s garden in China 2697 B.C, Emperor Yao China About 2,000 B.C, Confucius China 551-479 B.C Ctesias India 4th century B.C, Alexander the Great Asia 3rd century B.C., Julius Caesar Germany 1st century B.C., Prester John Asia Mid- I I00s , Genghis Khan India Early 1200s

No matter who describes it or whether it looks like a horse, donkey, rhino or some other beast, the horn of the Unicorn is always imbued with magical healing, protective and restorative powers. It has been said that a Unicorn horn can purify poison, that possession of a Unicorn horn ensures long life and that a unicorn horn can heal and restore a person’s health.

The Unicorn is real, On March 29, 2016, CNN reported that a Unicorn fossil was found in Siberia and that Unicorns lived up until about 30,000 years ago. Sadly, the majestic beast only slightly resembles our romanticized version of the fairy tale unicorn. Nevertheless, it is a Unicorn. According to the artists’ renditions, it looks like a woolly rhinoceros. It had haunches like a horse and a very large horn growing straight out of the center of its head.

Unicorns are so embedded in our culture that they exist in the minds of many. Whether you believe in Unicorns or not, a belief in the fanciful can improve one’s imagination and creativity. It is okay to let go of reality from time to time and just for a few moments, enjoy the notion of a Utopian existence.

When I am stressed, I repeat rainbows and unicorns quietly to myself a few times. It really does lower my blood pressure. On second thought, I am sure that I believe in Unicorns.

Please take a few minutes to remind the young people that they should never become too grown to enjoy a bit of childlike fantasy. Remind them not to grow up to fast; it takes 20 years too become grown but grown lasts forever.

Images: Upper left is the image from the CNN News report, it is the artist rendition of what the found Unicorn looks like.
Upper right  a medieval style Unicorn
Bottom today’s Unicorn



The Best Half Hour Ever


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It seems that these days, busyness is a way of life. My particular schedule includes a weekly stretch from Monday evening through Wednesday night.

In light of that whirlwind of babysitting, bible study, early school dismissal on Wednesday and more babysitting. It is understandable that Thursday morning greets me with a kitchen that is in serious need of attention.

Today I arose early to give the kitchen it’s due attention. I set my tablet’s playlist to Zen meditation music and proceeded to get down to business.I had just reached  for the tablet, to make a new selection, when my grandson, who was preparing to go to school, came into the kitchen and said, “ don’t change it, I like that one!” Of course, this is not what one would expect to hear from an eleven-year-old boy who plays Forte Night and Call of Duty. But hey, If my grandson is enjoying the Zen music, then more power. I turned back to the music and continued my work in the kitchen.

As my husband was leaving to drop the grandson at the bus stop, he informed me that he needed to go directly to his mother’s house. “Okay,” I thought, “I can finish in here undisturbed.” As my duties in the kitchen were coming to a completion, I prepared the coffee maker. The timing was perfect; I was wiping the counters as it churgled the last drop. I took my coffee and proceeded with my tablet and blankie to the couch. The plan was to enjoy the coffee and Zen music for about 15 minutes.

Just about then, I realized that since I woke up early, I could really use a 15-minute nap. I set the coffee aside and stretched out on the couch. About 5 minutes into my “nap” I felt a little tingly, not in a bad way, I just felt the need to stretch. What a release; that stretch felt so good, that I employed every yoga stretch and warm up technique that I knew.

I wiggled my toes and flexed my ankles.  I Did knee drops, shoulder shrugs, and hip flexes. By the time I was finished stretching, I let out a few deep yawns and lay there quietly for about five minutes. After that, I stood up did the warrior pose and a couple of primal screams.

Finally, I enjoyed my cup of coffee in peace. Just as I was setting the cup down on the table for the last time, my husband walked through the door. I may never have a half hour like that again.

No matter how busy life gets, we all need time to ourselves; encourage the young people in your life to take some alone time for themselves as well.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take Care Of Your Village

Auntie Starshine


During my exploration of limiting beliefs and changing mindsets to change behavior, I learned that many of my current behaviors and attitudes are a direct result of influences from my early life. So I thought, if people and incidents in my early life can influence my behavior over fifty years later, then influence in itself is a pretty big deal.

Allow me to share a couple of stories with you to demonstrate the importance of influence. Whether it is positive or negative, influence has real immediate and long-term impacts on our lives. Influence can determine not only how we behave or respond, but it can also determine how others behave toward or respond to you.

There was an important speech in the movie “Fists Of Fury”, the fighting champion decided to make his own martial arts sports league. Like a good leader, he sought out people who respected him and would support his vision. During the initial training sessions, this is what he told his recruits.

We influence others by working together, the foreigners have bullied us long enough. It is time that we stand up for ourselves. Why do foreigners look down on us? Because we are not UNITED! For years we fought – Chinese against Chinese

That is why the West bullies us weak men of the East. What an insult! Some of us don’t even realize how sick this country is.

This is the Jin We Sports Federation Motto learn it live it:Body mind soul- by working together, we can better ourselves and stand strong as one nation.We influence others through cooperation, not intimidation.Through this ideal we will always stand strong

Our young people are always looking for guidance. Although they may not ask directly, they take their cues from the people whom they respect.

We influence them and others by our actions, attitudes and even by our appearance. One day, while I was attending a daytime community event, I saw a gentleman who was about 30 years old. He was not particularly handsome, but he was dressed like he could have been the president of the community empowerment organization that hosted the that day’s event. 

Naturally, I introduced myself and asked him what his role was at the event. His answer was “I am just attending, I am a barbecue chef.” I complimented him on his attire and we chatted a minute or two longer.

He could have stepped into a black-tie dinner and no one would have questioned his presence. He wore a blue pinstriped shirt, which had a white button-down collar and white French cuffs. He wore a tie with tie clip and very large gemstone cufflinks. His slacks were simple, black or blue and the shoes were in perfect shape.

The fact is that he got my attention and the attention of many other people at the event. He influenced us to approach him or at least acknowledge his presence by his attire. The truth is that we influence people every day. The people who we encounter in our daily lives make instant judgments about who we are or who they expect that we are. They use cues from our physical appearance, attire, attitude, and behavior to sum up whether we are good or bad, approachable or not. They even make judgments about whether we will be a good customer or a good fit in a new job environment.

Bringing the thought closer to home, the young people in our lives take cues from us every day. What impact does your influence have?

Are you the one who quietly asks to speak to the manager or are you the one who yells at the part-time minimum wage clerk to have a problem resolved. Are you the one who yells down the block to have a full conversation, or are you the one who walks up the street to talk to your neighbor, when it comes to more than a simple hello neighbor. Do you berate your significant other in front of everyone? Do you talk about people in your circle when they are not there? Do you steal from the store or take undue advantage of a situation? Are you a “ganger” or “baller” a thief or a saint.

Whoever you are, whatever you do, remember that someone is always watching you. Children learn what they live, be careful what they see you do. and Always be a good influence.

Influence is not always a matter of behavior or action, we never know what influence we have on another person, especially when a young person who is looking for examples in life.

Please take a moment to talk to the youth in your “village’ about the power of influence and how their own actions attitudes and appearance influence others actions and reactions.

This influence can be as subtle as believing that a person is suspicious or as detrimental as believing that a person is a mortal threat.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project

Take Care of Your Village

Auntie Starshine

Speak Kindly to Yourself

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This week on my journey of self-improvement, I learned about the power of speaking kindly to oneself.

I read a couple of different articles on how to eliminate negative self-talk and limiting beliefs.

Negative self-talk is when a person uses negative language when talking to themselves. Come on admit it, we all talk to ourselves. In my day to day life, I accomplish the most when I speak my plan of action out loud.

Limiting beliefs are those beliefs that we hold so deeply in our subconscious, that we don’t even realize that they are there. These limiting beliefs can manifest themselves, any time we face a challenge or attempt to grow out of our comfort zones. These beliefs can be centered around any number of issues, but here are a few. Limiting beliefs can be about your ability, body image, self-worth, whether or not you deserve a certain level of success or finances.

Being a child of the 50’s; I was born in March 1960, so most of my upbringing was imprinted on me before the revolution of what is now known as the 60’s. My limiting belief is that of the role of a woman in the home. My mother was a married homemaker, and so were my grandmother, as well as most of my aunts and neighbors. That was the way of the world.

My role model for a woman was that of a married homemaker. So as soon as I graduated from high school, I got married and started a family. That was 1978, very early in the women’s revolution The marriage did not last long, so I went to work. Even though I have always worked outside of the home, I always felt the pressure to keep the house clean, cook the meals, and be fully engaged in the lives of my children. No wonder, I developed high blood pressure. Today, I am releasing my limiting belief about the role of a woman in the home and I will share with you what I learned during the last week.

Our internal voices and beliefs can be helpful, but, sometimes they can be our worst enemies. However, we can train them to work for us rather than against us. We must learn to speak more kindly to ourselves. One of the methods to change negative self-talk is to rephrase what you say to yourself.  If you lock yourself out of the house, do not say I am so stupid, simply acknowledge that sometimes dumb luck happens to us all and remind yourself to be more diligent in the future.

One of my favorite sayings is ”Children Learn What They Live” if a child is told something enough times he will eventually believe it. Here is a good example; I used to have this small etched foil picture, the scene was a beautiful garden courtyard with a fountain in the center with a little stone bench on the garden path.  I could look at that little picture for hours. I would often say to my son who was about 3 or 4 at the time, “ That is a beautiful garden, I can almost see the gardener smiling and admiring his work. “Eventually we moved and the little picture was packed away, some years later, I pulled it out and as I was sitting there admiring the beautiful garden, my son who was now a teenager looked at the picture and said, “Hey, what happened to the little gardener!” True story, but my point is belief is a powerful thing, so whatever you believe is possible, is possible.

So tell yourself that you deserve all of the greatness that this world has to offer you. Realize that you are awesome, powerful, and intelligent. You deserve to be loved and respected. You deserve all of the financial success that your personal efforts will afford you. Speak kindly to yourself, do not use negative phrases, start all positive phrases with I am… and whenever you come upon a thought that you know is holding you back from the greatness that you deserve, dismiss it, excuse it release it.


It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project

Take Care of Your Village

Auntie Starshine

There is no school of adulthood


Here in the United States, there is no school of adulthood. So, how is adulthood decided? Legally a person is an adult at age 18 or 21; but, from a practical viewpoint, when does one become an adult? Is it when he can change a tire, change the oil, hunt a deer or possibly when he or she can prepare meals and take care of children?

Does one have to have money management skills to be considered an adult? Should a person know how to cook for himself before he is declared an adult?

Being an adult is like being a good teammate. One should be honest, trustworthy,and dependable. He should be able to take care of himself and those who depend upon him. She should be employed or earning a living in a legal endeavor. His income makes it possible for an adult to provide for himself and those for whom he is responsible. An adult should participate fully in the civic system. She should also be a good all around citizen, and a role model in the community.

Reaching a certain age makes you an adult. But what happens to those adults who had no adulthood guidance?

They are left to figure it out by themselves, while legal trouble is always a concern, the greatest concern for young adults is navigating the world that they have entered. They must know to use credit wisely and how to engage with the boss and other adults on a mature level. They have to be able to function in a workplace environment. They should be able to take constructive criticism and direction from other adults.

Young adults need to be able to take responsibility for their actions and accept consequences without assigning blame. They need to be serious and focused, while still having a bit of fun.

There is so much that our new adults need to know, that we can not waste any opportunity to encourage and guide them. Parents, family members and others of influence, should always take the time guide and encourage our young people so that they can enter adulthood as well equipped as possible.

Wherever you see an opportunity to help, please do; our young people need all the help that they can get.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project

Take Care Of Your Village

Auntie Starshine