The Community Has Influence.



When I grew up we lived in a community of family and neighbors. Everyone took part in the teaching, training and raising of the children. A community is not a place, a building or a zip code, it is however, a group of people who share common values, interests and concerns. Their beliefs and attitudes shape their behavior.

A community can be an extended family, an ethnic group, or a group of people who share a common experience or history. If everyone acts in the best interest of his neighbors, then a neighborhood is generally a community.
The Tribal cultures embody the best example of community.  Generally, they have a chief or Head Elder, usually one of the older men in the group. There is typically a council of elders, these are other men and women in the group who have proven themselves to be mature, wise and resourceful. They have gained the respect of the community through their maturity wisdom and resourcefulness. And of course, there is the counsel of women, they are responsible for the care and nurturing of the entire village. They teach customs, crafts, and social norms.
Even the children and teenagers support the community They have chores that keep the community clean and orderly. Some may prepare meals or care for the young as their contribution. Others may collect water, clean the yard, tend the garden or take care of small livestock as their contribution.
Here in the United States, we have homes,extended families, and neighborhoods, rather than villages. However, the structure is similar. Everyone in the community has a responsibility for taking care of the family, the home and the neighborhood. Thus the adage, “ It takes a Village to raise a child.” It is a community effort.

In the rural village communities, everyone in the community must follow the rules and do their part. If the sheep watcher does not protect the sheep, there will be no meat, no wool for clothes. If the home person does not take care of the garden, and the chickens, there will be no food. If the children don’t do their part, the entire community could fall into chaos.

Every member of a community should display good character and the values that are important to that community. Character is the type of person that you are, whether you are lazy, or hard working, honest or dishonest. And values are all of the parts that make up character, the things that are right and acceptable, because you have learned those values from the community as a whole.
The community encourages dedication to family, respect to all, education, personal growth, and development. It encourages each of us to be our best and to do our best no matter what.

The community culture is one of respect, decency and kindness. It embraces shared knowledge and wisdom. The community understands and honors heritage. It encourages community effort and community economics. For your sake and ours,be a part of the community.

This blog uses articles, poems, short stories and quotes.  Each post is a lesson. 

Knowledge is everywhere. Learn all that you can. Use what you learn.

Become a part of your community. Encourage the young people to do the same.

Community is vital.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good.


Welcome to Kindergarten

Welcome to Kindergarten Clipart


This excerpt is full of so much wisdom. Please use the thoughts in this piece to influence a kinder gentler community.

All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten from the book by Robert Fulghum.

ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten.

Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate-school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.

Share everything                                                                                                                                          Play fair
Don’t hit people
Put things back where you found them
Clean up your own mess
Don’t take things that aren’t yours
Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody
Wash your hands before you eat

Live a balanced life – learn some and think some
and draw and paint and sing and dance and play
and work every day some
Take a nap every afternoon

When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic,
hold hands, and stick together

Be aware of wonder
Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup:
The roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody
really knows how or why, but we are all like that

Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even
the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die
So do we

And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books
and the first word you learned – the biggest
word of all – LOOK

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere
The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation
Ecology and politics and equality and sane living
Take any of those items and extrapolate it into
sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your
family life or your work or your government or
your world and it holds true and clear and firm

Think what a better world it would be if
all – the whole world – had cookies and milk about
three o’clock every afternoon and then lay down with
our blankets for a nap

Or if all governments
had a basic policy to always put items back where
they found them and to clean up their own mess
And it is still true, no matter how old you
are – when you go out into the world, it is best
to hold hands and stick together

Remind the young people in your life to be kind and considerate. Encourage them to use the lessons that they learned early in life.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good

You Have Influence

Auntie Starshine’s Influence Project


What distinguishes man from the animals is, the influence that the society he lives in has upon him. Anonymous

Influence is a subtle force yet a strong motivator. It is the impact that we have upon each others thoughts and actions. We influence people through our words and individual actions.

By using the power of influence through celebrity spokespersons marketers convince the public to purchase certain products. Understanding the power of influence, how can we gain the attention of our youth and influence their future success?

The behaviors that used to be youthful explorations of self expression have now become cultural norms, there are mature adults who still dress and behave like teenagers.

I want to have a positive influence upon the lives Black youth in America. If you are a parent or someone who has a mentoring heart, join me and connect with a few youth from your neighborhood. Meet with them once a week to inform and encourage them.

Our youth are denigrated in movies, music and the nightly news. My goal is to improve the opinions that others have about the Black community as well as improve the statistics of our youth, namely: self respect and disrespect, vulgarity, poor grooming and dress, lack of direction, the drop out rate, job skills and employment, youth violence, drug use, pregnancy and sexual activity

The blog will feature relevant topics which, can be supplemented by discussion, media material, activities, appearances by local figures and organizations as well as exposure to positive examples through media, and cultural activities. This blog emphasizes personal responsibility and self respect. We all have influence, let us influence a better community.

Auntie Starshine, influencer, use your influence for good




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My Grandparents and Other Important People in My Life

grandparents coloredI had wonderful grandparents. My Grandfather was a good teacher;when I was a kid, my grandparents lived in a house that had fruit trees in the backyard. Every year my Grandfather pruned and sprayed the trees, he would call me out to keep him company. I enjoyed watching him work, but now I understand that he was teaching me all the time. He taught me how to prune trees, and paint over the bare spot. He taught me how to start a sapling from seed and plant it. That peach tree lived over 25 years. My Grandfather is no longer with me, but the many lessons that he taught me are with me to this day.

My Grandmother was a good teacher too. She was a very social lady, and because of that, my cousin and I began hostessing when we were about 8 years old. We can each set a table with the best of them. Her method of teaching was by conversation, she loved to have conversations with us. During those conversations, she taught us many lessons. She told us how to deal with boys and how to behave like a lady. When I got old enough to date, my first date always included a visit to my grandparents house, because they always knew if the date was a nice young man or not.

When we became adults our grandmother would have a talk with each of us, letting us know that we were no longer children and had to behave like adults. I hope that my grandchildren turn out to be great adults. They did a pretty good job with me and the other grandchildren.

My parents, grandparents and extended family, made sure that all of the young people within their sphere of influence understood the responsibility that come along with becoming an adult. After we became about 12 years old, they began to interact with us differently. We were eased into adulthood, by those interactions. They spoke to us like adults, they held us accountable for our actions and entrusted us with new and more substantial responsibilities. Although we did not have a formal welcome to adulthood event, we knew that we were ready for adult life. All of the interactions with my grandparents helped to shape the person that I am today. Every moment was a lesson, it was not boring or tedious, it was just spending time together.

I am thankful for the lessons that my grandparents gave me; they helped me become the adult that I am today. Following their example, I also take every opportunity to teach my grandchildren about life and other important things.