THANKSGIVING

Thanksgiving

Yesterday was Thanksgiving Day. But let me share with you an experience that I had a couple of weeks ago. It was our usual hectic busy week, the grand kids had been over all week long. So we were on full time grandparent duty. We drove the kids back and forth to school. We supervised homework and prepared dinner. We Insisted on baths and all the rest. When the Kids left our house on Saturday evening, I was especially tired. I went to bed and slept in a deep sound sleep. The kind of sleep that you can’t get when you have to listen out a busy two year old who will walk the floors, even in a dark house.

Sunday morning arrived. I was laying there enjoying the quiet. My husband came into the room and popped on the light. I raised my are to shield my eyes. “Thank God I can cover my eyes from the light. Thank God that the light bothers me.” I thought, as I continued to lay there. By now I had lain in just a bit too long, so I got up to hurry to the bathroom. No pain in my feet. My knees did not hurt. I can get to the bathroom all on my own. So I Thanked God, that I was able to walk. I did my bathroom routine and exited from the warm shower. “Thank God for warm water, some people don’t have that” I thought as I continued on my way.

I headed to the bedroom, sans bathrobe, the house was nice and warm. Thank you Lord for the heat.” I said out loud. I got dressed and changed my mind about the outfit. I changed blazers to make a brighter ensemble. “Thank God.” I thought, “I have a closet full of clothes.”

As it often happens with Michigan weather, my lightweight jacket was insufficient. So I reached into the back of the closet and pulled out my long wool coat. Another “Thank God “was whispered. Because I had a coat for the colder weather. My husband and I headed out for Church and locked the doors behind us. Again, a wave of gratitude come over me,”Thank God that we have a secure home.”

We got into one of our three cars; none of them are new but there are three just the same. What a blessing to have three cars. Just at that moment, I thought how grateful I was to have a Man of God as my husband. We drove to the local coffee shop and ordered coffee and bagels. Again, I thought what a blessing to be able to spend the Five dollars for coffee and bagels.

It sounds like a lot Thank You Lords and Oh how Blessed I am’s, but, on that particular day, for no reason at all, I found myself in a state of Profound Gratitude.Thanksgiving is nice, but Gratitude is much more fulfilling.

Always be grateful.

Pamela Moultrie

The Village Mother

The Two Kings

Here is a short story by my grandson Makai.

 

Two Kings

created by: Makai Goodwin


Once upon a time ,there were two Kings. Marshall, who was the King in the village of Mercy and King Joel, who was the King in the village of Sandy Shores.

King Marshall and King Joel were always fighting. One day, they were having a giant argument… “I’m going to kill you!” Marshall yelled.”When did I ever do any thing to you?!” Joel yelled back. You killed my soldiers answered Marshall. That.s because you killed my Queen. Yelled Joel.

King Marshall’s village was a mess, there were wounded and dead soldiers everywhere, the cow, were in the mote and the chickens were on top of the castle. In King Joel’s village, the women were hiding under a hay stack and the goats were in the pig pen.

At the end of the argument, no one had really won,. “Darn it try again.” “I am going to beat you one of these days King Joel!” Marshall shouted as he waved is fists and stomped away.

The next day, King Marshall tried to strike again and again he lost. Because, King Joel had air support and blew up King Marshall’s Kingdom with missiles. King Marshall said “This has to be a nightmare, this can’t be happening!!!

Five years later…. King Marshall, apologized to King Joel He said, I’m sorry,that I tried to attack you before.

I accept your apology King Marshall said King Joel. Do you want to live with me said King Joel. Sure said King Marshall.

Journals, Radios and Blogs

Mildred Gaddis is a radio talk show host in Detroit Michigan. Her show broadcasts daily on AM 1200 and 99.9 FM, from 10 AM to 1PM. The show covers politics and local issues. I also has segments on finance, hair care, relationships and more.

What I most admire about Mildred Gaddis, is that she rarely misses an opportunity to enlighten her listeners. Today, in her usual fashion of frank honesty, Mildred Gaddis took her listeners to school again. A caller was venting about the portrayal of Detroit’s comeback. He also complained about the local news media, and suggested that it did not practice fair and unbiased reporting, concerning recent events in Detroit.

Her response to the caller was both education and a call to action. In essence, she told him that independent journalism was the most effective way to build a platform that would allow him to voice his opinions and concerns in a serious manner. The caller was encouraged and inspired. The timing of the conversation could not have been more relevant for me.

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Fun Times With Dad

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I just finished a term paper, for a class that I am taking.

The topic was, How a fathers care and attention impacts a child’s life. It was based on a research article about a Fathers’ Warm Care giving.

It stated all of the obvious data, and a few new things to consider. A child fares better when there are two parents in the home. A child in a single parent situation is more likely to face poverty and the troubles associated with poverty.

A child who does not have a father in the home is more likely to become a teenage parent and more likely to indulge in drugs, alcohol, and cigarette smoking. A child without a father in the home is more likely to engage in delinquent behavior. You get it.

That is not to say that, because, a child is in a single parent home, the world is going to come crashing down on him or her. There are many fatherless families with children who turn out to be just fine, and in some cases spectacular.

This is the result of powerful parenting on the part of the mother or single father.

Sometimes there is support from friends family and the larger community.

Every now and then things turn out great because they were wonderful children anyway.

Warm parenting is described as nurturing, responsive, positive, interactions by the father.

You know, the kind of stuff you see on TV. The report studied how a father’s warm interactions with his child, between the ages of birth and age 3 affected the child in later life.

The children who had the warm interactions, whether the father was in the home or not, did better on every measure. The did better in preschool, 2 grade, 5th grade and on into adolescence and early adulthood.

This got me to thinking about how it was growing up in my nearly perfect two parent home with a stay at home mom and a kind dad who made good money and did not run the streets.

It was great. We had simple fun, if my dad mowed the lawn, I was walking in his footsteps. If my dad fixed the TV, I was hanging over his shoulder and requesting that he take out all of the scarey stuff.

When my dad put up a picket fence, I was right there, of course, the picket that I cut was totally backwards. It was so backwards that you couldn’t flip it over. So my dad used that as the interest piece on the gate.

Friday was ice cream day, it didn’t matter how many kids were on the sidewalk, we all piled in and rode to the local diary queen or we made these fantastic grape soda ice cream floats in the kitchen.

Our fun came from long rides exploring the country side. The challenge was to see how many fox you could spot. We would drive over to Drayton Plains and Watch the parachute jumpers. And we would spend long days at the state park.

It was all so simple, but so much fun. Dads, whether you are in the home or not, make it a point to spend warm, quality, simple time with your children. You can’t underestimate the impact of that.

My dad is still alive today, I am 55 he is 84.

Thanks Dad for a Wonderful Life.

It Takes A Village To Raise A Child, This Is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village,

The Village Mother

Spring Cleaning

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Spring Cleaning

Spring is in the air. The days are warmer and longer.

Grandma would say, it is time to clear the cobwebs. Those who practice Fung Shui, would say it is time to balance the energy.

No matter what phrase you use, it is time to clear the clutter. This can mean anything from discarding old clothes and dusting the basement to finally donating that unused box of craft items. But it can sometimes mean reevaluating friends and relationships.

Spring is a natural time for growth and renewal. It is also a perfect time to cultivate some relationships and prune others. The 80/20 rule of success states that we often spend 80% of our time in activities that net us only 20% of our desired outcomes. So the first lesson is to flip that. Begin to put more energy into those rewarding relationships and less energy into the relationships that offer no value.

Some people are energy drainers they are often miserable and complain a lot. Some people are more positive encouraging and supporting your vision and efforts, even cheering you on when you don’t quite hit your mark. They also tell you when you are wrong.

Make sure that you are not the drainer, in your existing relationships and reduce your exposure to the to those who are. You might even need to seek new relationships altogether.

If your close friend is doing absolutely nothing in life, you might need to rethink that friendship. Their season may have passes. If you have a close friend who never offers to pick up the lunch tab, reduce your lunch outings with that friend. If the friends in your life are not part of your goals and direction in life, reduce the amount of time you spend with them. Their reason or season may come later.

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Makes sure that you understand what role the relationships in your life are fulfilling

Feel free to use this article as a topic for the young people in your life.

It takes a village to raise a child. This is My Village Project.

Take Care Of Your Village.

The Village Mother.

I got this little lesson from Quote Mountain.com

Are You A Reason, Season, or a Lifetime?

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real, but, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships, teach you, lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

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IS RACE THE SAME AS ETHNICITY?

What is Ethnicity and who has it.

Race is a common factor in ethnicity, but it is not the determinant factor.  Ethnicity is more local, or specific than race.

Ethnicity is described as a group of people who share a common culture, and language.

Culture is defined as a group of people who share a common value system, common beliefs, and shared concerns.  This definition can be expanded to include common history or common experience.

That was my first blog entry.  It was less than 100 words long.  This week I had a thought on race and ethnicity again.

It has been suggested that  African American is not an ethnicity but, why not?  Why is it that African Americans who are descendants of the slave era are not considered an ethnicity?

According to the definition, we fit the criteria.

Language:  English,  Hood, Slang, and Rap Lingo.

Religion:   Hallelujah, Rock The House, AME Missionary Baptist, C.O.G.I.C., The Black Church Experience is unique to    the African American Culture.

Soul Food: Uniquely African American

History: Ancestry, lines back to American slavery.

The reason that we are not considered an ethnicity is the lack of Unity.  More specifically the lack of advocacy.  Do we have someone watching the media for ethnically disparaging portrayals?  What about some of the images in commercials.  I have noticed lately that when a non black person is promoting a product  to the black community on  TV, they yell.  H&R Block “GET YO BILLIONS BACK”  The Hump day Camel,  Mr Alan’s. Even the Car Companies yell.  They yell because African Americans are considered as loud talkers.

African Americans don’t want to be the loudest thing in the room.  But when you work in loud environments, spend a great deal of time in crowded places, or have family who have lost hearing due to factory work, you talk loud.

When you address someone in  a room of people and you get no response, like you are not standing there, You use the  loud EXCUSE ME. When you are the smallest thing in the house and you are left in charge, you learn to be loud.

Getting back to my point.  we are viewed and portrayed as loud, ignorant, ghetto, etc. Basically, we are viewed as unsophisticated, uncultured, and unable to fit in.

Al Sharpton is the closest thing to an advocate that I can think of.  He can not see all, be all, and do all. We must do for ourselves.  Lets start speaking up and speaking out about the portrayals and representations of African Americans in media.  Lets start speaking up and speaking out against the lyrics in the popular music that is being directed at out children.     Write letters station managers, network presidents, and  product promoters. Write to your local radio personalities, to  make your specific complaint known.   Protest in me you see a negative image, portrayal or representation of African Americans.

Remember, there is a reason why you don’t see Amos and Andy on TV anymore.  I find it difficult to watch reruns of Good Times and other shows of that era.

Lets be our own advocates, if enough people speak out and speak up, they will have to listen.

The Upside of Anger

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The Upside of Anger

I saw a movie the other night, The Upside Of Anger. The story had a background narrative by the youngest daughter in the family. That is what got my attention. I read somewhere that anger is the energy to make a change. Perhaps anger has a point after all.

Here is part of the narrative:

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A case in point, in anger’s ability to change us, is my mother…

Anger and resentment can stop you in your tracks.

It needs nothing to burn, but the air and the life that it swallows and smothers.

It can change you, turn you, mold you and shape you into someone you’re not.

The only upside to anger, is the person you become…

Hopefully someone that wakes up one day and finds, they’re not afraid of anger’s journey

anger like growth comes in spurts and fits and in it’s wake it

leaves a new chance at acceptance and the promise of calm.

But what do I know, I’m only a child

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Anger is the energy to change things.

If you take a moment to breath and let the anger pass. Then you can use energy of the anger, to use better decision making skills. Open a dialogue and create the change that you need, to make the world right again.

Anger can make us more determined when we encounter obstacles. The positive use of con anger can make you feel strong and powerful and help push you on to get what you want.

When you let your relationship partner know, that he has made you angry, he can fix it; or at least be aware of the fact that you don’t agree with his actions.

Let you your youth know that, anger can be a productive emotion ,if used correctly. Here are some strategies for dealing with anger.

Don’t act out of anger. Wait until the anger has passed to address the problem.

Count to 10 50 or 100.

Try to understand what made you angry and why.

Consider if you did something to contribute to the situation. Make sure that we haven’t done something to offend the other person.

Note: It can’t always be the other guy’s  fault, It can’t always be your fault.

If this is an abuse issue, seek professional help.

Don’t hold on to anger. Consider what needs to be changed for you to move on.

Ask for what you need.

At a time that is good for both parties have a discussion.

Not while you are still angry, late for an appoint, trying to get something done, or tired sleepy, and hungry.

Have a calm open discussion about the problem, don’t antagonize.

Don’t make you always, you should have of, how could you statements.

Let the person know exactly what the problem is and only discuss that instance.

Recognize when you might need to walk away or ask for intervention from a responsible neutral third party person.

It takes a village to raise a child, this is my village project

Take care of your village

The Village Mother