The Upside of Anger
I saw a movie the other night, The Upside Of Anger. The story had a background narrative by the youngest daughter in the family. That is what got my attention. I read somewhere that anger is the energy to make a change. Perhaps anger has a point after all.
Here is part of the narrative:
A case in point, in anger’s ability to change us, is my mother…
Anger and resentment can stop you in your tracks.
It needs nothing to burn, but the air and the life that it swallows and smothers.
It can change you, turn you, mold you and shape you into someone you’re not.
The only upside to anger, is the person you become…
Hopefully someone that wakes up one day and finds, they’re not afraid of anger’s journey
… anger like growth comes in spurts and fits and in it’s wake it
leaves a new chance at acceptance and the promise of calm.
But what do I know, I’m only a child
Anger is the energy to change things.
If you take a moment to breath and let the anger pass. Then you can use energy of the anger, to use better decision making skills. Open a dialogue and create the change that you need, to make the world right again.
Anger can make us more determined when we encounter obstacles. The positive use of con anger can make you feel strong and powerful and help push you on to get what you want.
When you let your relationship partner know, that he has made you angry, he can fix it; or at least be aware of the fact that you don’t agree with his actions.
Let you your youth know that, anger can be a productive emotion ,if used correctly. Here are some strategies for dealing with anger.
Don’t act out of anger. Wait until the anger has passed to address the problem.
Count to 10 50 or 100.
Try to understand what made you angry and why.
Consider if you did something to contribute to the situation. Make sure that we haven’t done something to offend the other person.
Note: It can’t always be the other guy’s fault, It can’t always be your fault.
If this is an abuse issue, seek professional help.
Don’t hold on to anger. Consider what needs to be changed for you to move on.
Ask for what you need.
At a time that is good for both parties have a discussion.
Not while you are still angry, late for an appoint, trying to get something done, or tired sleepy, and hungry.
Have a calm open discussion about the problem, don’t antagonize.
Don’t make you always, you should have of, how could you statements.
Let the person know exactly what the problem is and only discuss that instance.
Recognize when you might need to walk away or ask for intervention from a responsible neutral third party person.
It takes a village to raise a child, this is my village project
Take care of your village
The Village Mother