Don’t Be a Brown Bagger
I was thinking about my grandmother and a conversation came to mind.
On one occasion, when I arrived to visit my Grandmother, something that I did regularly and rather spontaneously, a young acquaintance of hers was just leaving with kids in tow.
My grandmother turns to me and says, she is a nice girl but she is raising those kids out of a brown paper bag.
They eat out of a bag so much; they don’t even know how to sit down to the table and have a meal.
My grandmother wasn’t just speaking from observation, this young lady lived in the neighborhood and she actually had a pretty close relationship with her.
My thought is.. Are we raising our kids out of a paper bag? Do we rush to the drive thru or pick up something to pop in the microwave? Do we each grab our portion and retreat to our particular space?
Statistics that show kids who have dinner at the table, with their family, on a regular basis, fair better overall.
They get into less juvenile trouble, experience less teen pregnancy, and use less drugs and alcohol.
Here is another opportunity for us to do something positive with our youth.
If you are not having a sit down dinner with your family at least once a week, please start now.
I understand about varying schedules, outside activities and other obligations.
But the science shows that having a sit down dinner with the family is good for our youth.
So stop at the drive through bring it home, set the table and sit down with your family.
Table setting instructions
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The typical place setting for a informal three course dinner includes: Reference: Emily Post on Etiquette
Two forks, one for dinner placed at the far left and one for dessert or salad also on the left but nearest to the plate.
Dinner plate, not on the table yet until guests sit down and dinner is served
Salad plate, to the left of the forks
Butter plate, placed above the forks
Dinner knife, next to the plate on the right (for steak, chops, chicken or it may be a steak knife)
Butter Knife, placed diagonally across the butter plate
Two spoons, a dessert spoon positioned to the right of the knife, and if soup is to be served, a soup spoon to the right of the dessert spoon
Water goblet, placed above the knife
Wineglass, positioned slightly forward and to the right of the water goblet
Napkin, may be placed either in the center of the place setting or if there is no salad plate, to the left of the forks
Service plates are not normally used at an informal dinner.
They act like ‘saucers’ for the food when each course is served.
Though service plates are sometimes used if in an appropriate size and style under a stemmed glass used for shrimp cocktail, fruit cup, etc. and under soup plates.
Like the formal dinner, the dinner plate should not be on the table when you sit down, but after you sit, when the food is then served to you in a warm plate.
If you plan to serve of tea with the meal, the cup and saucer are placed at the right of the setting, with the coffee spoon on the table placed on the saucer to the right.
It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project
Take care of your village
The Village Mother