Honesty is one of the topics in my program, My Village Project. Are you being honest with yourself? Honesty is a character value that we teach our children. We expect people to be honest with us. We are honest with our friends and family. We are more honest with some people than others. But are we honest with ourselves? Do we allow ourselves to evaluate our shortcomings and take up the challenge of confronting and overcoming those shortcomings?
When we attempt to do something new or different, do we challenge the self defeating arguments that come to mind.
To be truly genuine with others, we have to be honest with ourselves. We can put on a front for so long that we actually bury our true selves in the image that we present. It is our insecurities, that keep us from being honest with ourselves and others. When we have a strong sense of self, it doesn’t matter what other people think of us.
Learning to be truly honest with yourself takes time and patience. The first step is to acknowledge that you have been dishonest with yourself. Consider some of the ways that have been dishonest with yourself. Write them down, and begin to think about ways to change the issues. You may want to work on one issue at at time.
When you begin to be honest with yourself and others, some of the people in your life may be a bit confused or even hurt. Let them know up front that you are reevaluating your life and you need to make certain changes to be true, to who you are. Make honesty a priority. When you find yourself, being dishonest with someone stop and ask your self; what am I hiding why what am I afraid of?
Continue to work on your self honesty every time you feel yourself slipping into the same old rut. Meditate on the honest you that you are trying to develop and keep working at it.
Honesty opens us up to a better life, it allows us to stop living under the excuses that we have created for ourselves. Honesty allows us to take action in areas of our lives that we have been avoiding.
Only you know if you’ve been lying to yourself and only you can decide to stop lying. And only you can become the person you want to be–in thoughts, words, and actions. Practice asking yourself if you are being honest. When you find yourself being dishonest, correct the situation. Promise total honest to yourself from now on. Continue to review your self honesty and keep working on the issues one at at time. Learning to be honest with yourself and others takes time and practice. Keep working at it and you will come out a better friend and a better person.
Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.
Honesty is the best policy.
I like honesty and fair play.
It takes a village to raise a child, this is My Village Project
Take care of your village
The Village Mother