This is one of the topics in my program. It gives the youth an opportunity to understand how the decisions they make, about their friends, could impact their lives forever. Most of the topics can be covered in a 1 hour, conversational style meeting. Share this topic with a young person in your life. It could make all the difference in the world. Here’s a little true story to go with the topic.
When I was about 17, I had a friend in the neighborhood. He was a real nice guy, raised in a good stable home environment, with good values, standards and role models. His mother was a nurse, his dad was an electrician. One day this really nice guy gave some other guys from the neighborhood, a ride to the corner store.
His dad had just recently, helped him buy a car. This was no plain car, it really stood out. They guys went in and robbed the store,. They had left the nice guy in the car, saying, they would be right out, the just wanted a pop. The nice guy went to jail for about 2 years for being an accessory to a robbery that he had no prior knowledge of and did not take part in . Be careful who you choose for your friends.
It is important that you choose your friends wisely, they will have a lot of influence in your life. As you grow older
you will fiend yourself choosing to spend less time with some people and more time with others. Your best friend
from first grade may decide to rob stores and break into houses. Will you continue to hand out with him? Your cousin
may start drinking and smoking cigarettes when you are both just 12 years old. Will you continue to hang out with
him? Because your friends will have so much influence in your life, you want to make sure that they are people who
will not be detrimental to your character, your plans and your life.
The company you keep means who you hang around with who you spend your time with. A Straight
A college bound student who knows that he wants to be a doctor, will not be hanging around with the
video game, beer drinking, burn outs in college. A girl who wants to be a teacher or nurse will not
spend most of her time with a party chic. The guy who never leaves the basement will probably never
find a job.
The old saying “Birds of a feather flock together means that people tend to choose people just like
themselves as friends, but smart people choose people that display the character traits that they want to
bring into their life. If you want to be a basketball star, you have to put in a whole lot of practice, so
who will you spend your time with?
The Company We Keep
Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will
learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. “A
mirror reflects a person’s face, but what they are really like is shown by the kind of friends they
choose.” The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate
– for the good and the bad.
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate
mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their
impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will
change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are.
Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke
your dream. Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.
• Never receive counsel from unproductive people.
• Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because
those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how.
• Not everyone has a right to speak into your life.
• You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person.
• Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere.
• With some people you spend an evening; with others, you invest it.
• Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.
• Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.
Thoughts On The Company We Keep
• Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
• Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will find himself in trouble
• Do not associate with anyone who is greedy, lazy, rowdy, a lush or a cheater.
• Leave the presence of a fool, for there you will not meet words of knowledge.
• Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways
acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
• Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and
entangle yourself in a snare.
• Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness?
Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
• Wine is a mocker, strong drink a brawler, and whoever is led astray by it is not wise.
• Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever
is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise,
think about these things.